dropping

aopi adpi dz and kd i just don’t really feel like i fit into any of these specific groups and I’ve had not great experiences at adpi consistently but keep getting it back

I think you should go kd or dz rather than drop and rush again. If you only had adpi and aopi I’d understand. Personally, I’d go kd over dz. kd is really on the come up and I know a lot of cool beautiful girls in kd that you are tons of fun. But then again it depends on what you’re looking for in a house? If you want to be in a big going out house go dz. if you want a little less party go kd. Kd is not weird at all this site makes them seem bad because their “middle tier” but it’s just not true. I had multiple friends in kd and they loved it. I highly suggest going kd or dz and going to bid day. If you hate it after a few months you can drop and rush again next year it won’t be any different than if you dropped now and rushed again next year. I didn’t have an “ah ha” moment in my sorority either and I didn’t LOVE any of the conversations bc let’s face it rush is so weird and some girls are into it and cry on pref and others are just like “cool.” But I made a decision based on logic and I promise you you will find friends in a pledge class of 80 girls. (:

I also have friends in dz who loved it. I just think if I had to pick I’d choose so because they have a better reputation on campus. But I would go dz before dropping. If i only have adpi and aopi id probably drop, join a flo, and rush again as a sophomore.

thank you so much that’s really helpful!! i’m going to see if they even ask me back for pref and just go from there. thank you!!

There are cool and beautiful girls in ALL of the sororities don’t listen to what you read on here!

I think you could be happy in DZ or KD. They are both really great sororities. I know several DZs and they love their sorority.

Whyy advise PNMs to drop ADPi and AOII? Both of those houses have strong reasons to join.

ADPi has been at TAMU since 1975 and has long been a strong presence. They have tradition and alum support.

AOII is only 3 years on tamu campus and they already built a house on the row. They must have many strong leaders and great girls to get that level of growth in three years.

Both of these houses have a strong national & SEC presence and have active social, philanthropic and sisterhood events. Bring these chapters your strengths and enjoy being wanted! Otherwise, PNMs will miss put on a year of fun and memories.

I also had KD DZ AOPI but not ADPI ... just haven't vibe w anyone

One of my really good friends was in your exact position. She really wanted a certain chapter and didn’t make it to pref. She had ADPi and another chapter for pref and wanted to drop bc she had heard about “tiers and reputations”. I’m going to tell you exactly what I told her....ADPi is amazing, I have met nothing but nice girls in that chapter, they love their sisters, have fun, and are smart beautiful girls! I know you would vibe with them if you gave them a chance...if you hate it you can always drop later but I know you won’t! I want you to have the best experience and I wouldn’t advise you to go to a chapter I thought you would be unhappy! My friend ended up becoming an officer and meeting amazing women! Best of luck!! Don’t be discouraged!! Sending you all the good vibes!

If you rush next year, it won’t necessarily be any different. But the houses you have now will definitely remember you, so you can count them out forever once you drop. If you just feel like none of these houses are for you, then maybe Greek life isn’t for you and you’d be better off joining another student organization. Not trying to be harsh. Just saying the truth. A lot of girls come into this process and think they’ll have a full card of “top” houses all the way to the end. There’s a ton of girls vying for a house. This is competitive recruitment at a large SEC campus. But if you’re too good to even give a house a chance, then drop so another girls can have your spot.

It’s not necessarily true that houses would remember you if you dropped. We don’t keep tabs on everyone going through recruitment and unless you’re a top girl in our house - meaning we all know your name and studied you during work week- then we will not remember you next year

i actually came in really loving a middle tier/lower? house (didn’t know that at the time, just what i’ve seen on here) and had a great conversation with some really sweet girls but was cut :( i don’t think i’m too good for anywhere at all! i just want to make sure i don’t end up somewhere where someone else would appreciate it more than me, and i’m pretending to be someone I’m not! i understand this is just the way recruitment is, especially at a school like a&m. it’s tough but i’ll get over it. i’m going to continue to pref and see what happens there! thank you for your advice!

As an active we definitely noticed the people that got us on pref or bid day last year and dropped. We cut them all first round so you’re definitely limiting options if you go drop. Just because the conversations you have had before are awkward doesn’t mean the next ones will be. You’ll probably talk to different girls and maybe will click with someone if you keep an open mind. The few girls you talk to aren’t the whole sorority.

Yes yes yes. And when you’re there on pref look around the room at the other pnms. Those are the girls you would need to hit it off with, not the actives.

thank you!! I’m definitely going to stay until pref and see what happens there :)

This is true. Even in a normal year it may take a little time to feel like you fit. And your “besties” in the house will most likely be from your nm class.