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the truth about connections

by: Been there done that

We stress the importance of connections, but I don't think most PNM's fully understand! There are two different types of connections:

1). You have a good friend or relative in the house. They will invite you to visit, introduce you to all of their friends, promote you during rush workshops, and perhaps most importantly go to bat for you with the rush team and advisors. She will know the importance of securing a rec from a chapter alumn and even go so far as to help you secure one. All her friends will Facebook friend you and love on you between now and recruitment.

2). You know a chapter alumn who will go to bat for you with the rush team and advisors. She will have probably already asked actives to get to know you and we will work hard at getting to know you.

That's it! A chapter alumni who doesn't personally know you will not go to bat for you!

We only look at resumes to make sure you meet our minimum standards. Recs are only used to make sure you can afford to pay dues. (Seriously, there is a box that the alumni will check stating this!).

If just one girl in the house doesn't like you, expect to be cut first round. If an alumni writes you a negative rec, we CANNOT give you a bid even if we love you! If you are paired with a bad rusher during recruitment, no, she is not being rude, she just knows that you are going to be cut so there is no use in getting your hopes up.

Rush is like politics! You must play the very dirty game properly and correctly.

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#1  by: ^^^   
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This for the most part is true, but girls without connections will still get bids! Maybe not to their top choices, but if they keep their options open, they have a very good chance of receiving a bid somewhere.

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#2  by: a person   
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my issue is that I am from out of state and I can't come across chapter alumni anywhere. Would it be okay if I contacted alumni organizations in the south, particularly in oxford area? No one around here went to Ole Miss and it is really stressful. I can secure recs from other alumnis but getting an Ole Miss one is really hard

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by: ^Apr 28, 2015 10:29:38 PM

Get a rec for every sorority no matter what school they're from. It actually looks really good if they know you personally. For instance, I only had one rec to my current house, but that alumni did not go to Ole Miss but she was a good family friend and I babysat her kids for years. She wrote me a good enough rec to get a bid.
The more personal the better. If the alumni is not from Ole Miss, don't sweat it. You can get a rec from any school.

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#3  by: Truth!   
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This is the truth in my sorority! If you meet random girls over the summer or in classes or in bars they may get to know you, they might think you are nice, but they are not likely to go to bat for you!

Connections are close personal friends! Not randoms we meet in bars!

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by: a personApr 28, 2015 11:18:01 PM

so basically if you have no connections from being out of state... you're screwed. No matter how good your personality is, no matter how good your GPA is, no matter how strong your resume is?

even the weeks before rush during the fall, it still can't happen :(

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by: ^^^Apr 28, 2015 11:55:17 PM

Most girls will get bids! With or without connections. The point is that you have to keep your options open! Houses with high return rates will have to drop the most girls early. Don't be surprised if you get cut from top houses if you don't have good connections. Houses with lower return rates get to keep more girls early on! Their lists get to be longer! You have a better chance with some houses than with others. And don't play the oos card! In every single house except chi omega, over half the girls are from oos! There are alumni everywhere!

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by: a person @aww noApr 29, 2015 12:05:20 AM

thank you! your post made me feel so much better. I have been told by several people that there are so many different kinds of girls in sororities. Some are super sweet, some are kinda mean, some party a lot, some go to church constantly. Just from reading posts on ole miss Greek rank page, the variety of personalities have been shown. I also want to say thanks to all of the actives and alumni who give constructive criticism and aren't rude. You are a good representation of Ole Miss Greek life.

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by: aww no!Apr 30, 2015 11:24:43 AM

Thank you so much @a person!
You are totally right! Sororities are melting pots of girls!
You have to remember that we were in your shoes not too long ago! We have feelings and (here's a secret) we really want to have a favorite! It's true! We want to find a girl who could be our little! If we find you in class and we think you're awesome, we will rush the heck out of you!

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#4  by: a person   
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I'm sorry:( I didn't mean to play the OOS card. That is just what it sounded like from reading other posts. I have always wanted to be in a sorority and I'm just going to send in all of my rec letters and hope for the best. I know I have a lot to offer and it is my job to get the connections and show all the sororities my qualities as a person and potential sister.

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by: Active :) Apr 30, 2015 11:28:27 AM

Girl, we've all been there. There's a lot of OOS and not everyone knows someone at Ole Miss in a sorority. Totally get it, you don't have to apologize.
I bet you do have a lot to offer! And it's scary when you don't have connections. Just take a deep breath. The time for showing the sororities who you are is before and during rush. Actives are literally trained to pick up personality traits and to tell who you are as a person. Just stay positive!

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#5  by: it goes both ways   
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yes you probably do want to make connections, but actives have to want to connect with you. girls that we don't know at all, but want to know, are typically ones that we ask to come and stay with us for spring parties or go out with us during orientation. if we want to know you, we will make an effort.
I personally got to know a super sweet girl from out of state that NOBODY knew when she came and stayed with a girl in my sorority. now we all are dying to have her.
trying too hard to make connections comes off as weird. when you follow or friend us on social media and we didn't add you first, that looks weird to us. we immediately ask if anyone in our PC knows her.

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by: a personApr 29, 2015 10:20:06 AM

This is really good advice. I've seen so many girls around my hometown friend random actives from our local universities on facebook. It is really weird and bad,bad way to make connections. I rather have no connections than be labeled as the weird girl. I think it is best to let the actives invite you because that means they have showed interest in you.

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