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by: almostgreeki need some advice. i feel like i'm not fitting in well with my chapter. i loved it during recruitment and thought for sure it was the place for me but now i'm having a hard time making friends and connecting with the other girls. it seems like all the 'cool', social girls in the sorority knew each other from high school or before college and aren't very interested in being friends with anyone else. i'm one of the few coming in from out of state and everyone seems to already have their cliques. due to my heavy course load at school, i don't have much time to just hang out and get to know people. what am i doing wrong? did i pick the wrong sorority? is the cliqueness just because i'm in a 'top tier' sorority or does this happen everywhere?
Comment#4 by: So what
There are always going to be cliques in any group as large as the sororities at Ole Miss. Stop focusing on the 'cool' popular girls and find the group you fit in most with in your sorority. If you spend your time focusing on the girls who stand out in the crowd, you will never meet the ones that could be your friends for life. Even with a heavy course load, you need to spend time with the other girls. The more you isolate yourself, the more you will feel like an outsider. So give it some time. It's only been a few weeks!
#5 by: Get out there...
You will only get out of a sorority what you put into it. If you want friends then You have to be a friend. Heavy work load sounds like an excuse. Eat meals at your house, attend swaps, go to football games with the girls in your sorority. I'm in a top tier too and I promise you that if you ask a sister if you can tag along with her and her group she will say yes! You just have to take the step and put yourself out there.
#6 by: Make an effort
So if you have a heavy course load- study at the house… find sisters in your class and study with them, make a freaking effort. It sounds to me like you expect everyone just to automatically be your friend because you pledged… it doesn't work that way. It doesn't matter which sorority or so called "tier" your in… friendship and sisterhood take work. BTW every house has "cool girls" and "not so cool girls"- and I feel sorry for you if you pledged this house because you thought they were all going to be "cool" and now your "disappointed"...
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by: Shut upOct 19, 2014 9:54:03 AM
Seriously. She already said the other girls knew each other before they started here. Stop being rude. She's trying, it's just not going according to plan...it will get better. People like YOU are why girls give up and drop.
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