when alums send in "no recs"
by: WonderingCan it keep someone from getting into a sorority? I know of a few girls who went away to schools where people from their high schools didn't go,one reason being they thought their reps (mainly over-the-top mean girl reps) would keep them from getting into sororities. I'm trying to convince someone that this plan might not work out if alums send in "no recs" on her saying she wouldn't be a good sister because of how badly she's treated other girls. She doesn't believe there's such a thing as a "no rec" but I know there is. If you don't have friends in sororities to stand up for you, it seems like a no rec could really hurt, but maybe they only carry weight if it's from an alum sorority members know. I don't really know, but she reads this site and Ole Miss is the top school she's hoping to get into, so at least help me convince her about no recs. She says if they don't want to give you a rec, they just won't do it. That's true, but older family members who are alums have told me they can officially let sororities know they don't recommend someone. Thanks for any answers.
#1 by: Negative
It's not called a no rec, it's called a negative rec, and yes it will get a girl cut after the first round. Negative recs can only be submitted by an alumnae of each chapter. For example: if a phi mu alumnae sends in a negative rec for a girl, the only house that will see it would be phi mu. Personally I think it is mean, the alumnae should allow the girls in the house to form their own opinions of the pnm. If an alumnae has a problem with a girl, she should just kindly refuse to write a recommendation. But that's just my opinion. At ole miss, a girl coming in with no connections trying to start over probably wouldn't have much luck anyway. Connections and a stellar reputation is key to getting a bid here. And, trust me, we have no problem stalking your social media. If he have mutual friends, we will contact those friends. It's not that easy to hide a mean girl reputation.
Comment#2 by: Well
Some groups do call it a no rec. If a chapter wants a girl, they can disregard the rec. Usually the chapter will call the alum for details. Some of these no recs are for petty reasons. The chapter could still go ahead and pledge the girl.
I'm an alum, and yes, I say SEND a no rec. Better that the chapter have SOME kind of warning. They can always toss it out.
#4 by: Wondering
Thank you for the answers! A family member who does a lot of recs told me she's never sent a no (or negative) rec and that it would have to be pretty bad before she did, but said she knows alums who have and it's usually because a girl seriously bullied their daughter or caused A LOT of drama when they were in groups. She also said what Best said, and that some mean girls don't realize that it can come back and bite them.
#6 by: totally true
Post Reply
Before you type: Remember, do not post names, initials, or any derogatory content.
YOU MAY ALSO LIKE
Didn't find your school?Request for your school to be featured on GreekRank.
