don’t fit in

Try harder.

Were you ever the new kid in school? or went to summer camp for the first time? or joined a new sports team? You probably didn't instantly become friends with those kids. It takes time to build bonds, especially in houses of over 400 girls. You'll need to put in a ton of effort to make friendships. You need to have meals at the house, join committees, go to parties, go on big-little dates, etc. two days is nothing when you've got four years ahead of you.

It will come with time! Just don't give up on it.

Yes, it's normal for some girls, but if there's one thing I wish new members would understand, it's this: things take time and effort. You don't become best friends with someone in two days, you don't become good at something in two days, so it's not realistic to expect to be 'feeling it' in two days.

You say no-one talks to you - are you initiating conversations? Are you really trying to get to know them? Or are you expecting them to do the work? It's been just two days and bonding with your sisters isn't something that's just handed to you because you got a bid.

Look at it another way: I've known students come here, knowing that Ole Miss was the school where they wanted to be. They got here and then felt unsure, not fitting in, etc. But they gave it time, found their friends, and loved it.

Go the house every day, ask girls out, put time into getting to know them and giving back to your pledge class. Nothing is handed to you with membership or in life.

Give it time.

For some reason with sorority membership there's this expectation that bam! Instant sisterhood, immediate friends.

Like others have said, it doesn't work that way. Like all relationships in life, they take time, take work, require you to be proactive and patient.

There are hundreds of girls in your house. You WILL find your niche.

Yes, it is awkward at first if you are going in not knowing anyone. Here are some tips:
1. go eat lunch at your house and sit next to someone
2. go to all of the events, especially sisterhood events
3. talk to the girl they matched you with on bid day.
4. scan your classes for your letters and sit next to them, or seek them out after class.
5. give it some time.

You have given it 2 whole days and aren't besties with everyone yet? Are you being honest or are you really just unhappy that you got a bid to your second choice house? Do you keep looking over at the house that you wanted as your first choice and thinking you would be happier there?

If that is what is really going on, STOP IT! The chapter that offered you a bid and sisterhood WANTED you. Appreciate them and put effort into making friends.

Please don’t give up yet! It takes some time to find your group, but once you do, you’ll know why you ended up there!

Then quit, but don’t think ypu are going to get another bid somwhere else,

Be grateful you received a bid. You have to give it time.