bad week?

I know it's easy to say and hard to do, but the less time I spend online the happier I am. I get really down and unhappy when I fall into the rut of insta, etc.

Unfortunately in college and in adulthood, when you want to meet new people and form new relationships, it takes more effort than you realize. I don't doubt that you are friendly and outgoing. But you need to go 2 steps further and be even more proactive than you feel is necessary. It is just the way of the world sometimes. Hang in there. And ignore the instagram photos. Everybody knows nobody actually really stands there in a groups with their arms around each other, facing each other, laughing with their heads thrown back.

Well, if you came here for a football weekend, it's never as great as that. TBH this place is very close minded, usually people don't talk to each other. That's why we have such a big Greek community.

Unfortunately most girls go Greek not because they want to, but they have to. Or else they wouldn't have any friends.

Once you rush you'll meet a bunch of girls even if it's fake and you are "paying for your friends" who cares, your sisters will make your time here. Basically, everyone comes in shy/close minded, they rush and everyone is super friendly, then after graduation no one really talks to anyone lol.

Just wondering was one of the people you saw transferring Darien? Don't know her personally but we follow each other and like each other's pics and I'm not sure about "not looking back!!! hello bama !!!" means... sounds like she just gout of a bad divorce, yikes!

Give it time. You just got here, everybody is in the same boat. Take a break from social media and try to actually talk to people. Join some club.

I came from out of state. I didn't know anyone. It was rough the first semester. I made small talk with girls in my classes and dorm. Hung out with different groups. I worked my butt off finding friends. I am now a senior and LOVE it here. I have made amazing friends and I am so happy I stuck it out. It is only the first week of school.

First, everyone is trying to get settled in so they're not necessarily going to be as focused immediately on making friends as they will be later so be patient.

Second, it takes effort to make friends in college (and beyond) - everyone is busy, adjusting to life post-high school (which takes more effort for some than others). It's easy to look at other people's lives and think they have it all together so then it's easy to think something's wrong with their own life. It's not.

Third, some people may have only visited OM a few times (including a game weekend) so the adjustment to a small town and a campus that's not always "Game Day-exciting" is something to deal with. I've known students from out of region and large cities that do go through period of adjustment, including being in the Deep South (even though we have a lot of OOS students) as well as getting used to a small town.

Get involved in groups, invite people out to do something, and give it time. Welcome, I hope you love it here!

A lot of the sorority scene and wannabe sorority freshmen are fake. This is coming from a sorority girl that has been here three years. A lot of people use others to social climb or whatever but there are some girls who genuinely push their friends into becoming better academically and as a person. To find those I had to be completely myself and ditch the whole stereotypical sorority girl act. If that’s your personality, that’s great because you don’t have to change yourself to eventually fit in pretty well here. If that isn’t natural to you though, and it wasn’t to me, it can get kind of hard making friends. Actually half of my friends here are non-greek because they are relaxed and not trying to outdo one another. I would definitely get involved as much as I can and give EVERYONE a chance at being your friend because a true friend is better than 10 fake.

You have to continuously tell yourself that everything you see on social media isn't true. A TON of the girls that are smiling and looking so happy on instagram are feeling the same way as you. Everyone wants it to look like they are having so much fun already and have made a million friends, but it isn't true for most people. Make sure you're putting in the effort; talk to girls in the bathroom in the mornings, on the elevator, in the C Store, etc. be friendly to people in class. Freshman year is really hard before rush (and after too). For most people, it gets way better! I love it here, but there have been multiple times where I've had a hard time and just don't feel welcome. But it is this way at any college.

Most people that transfer came from far away and didn't really know anyone to begin with or they want to be closer to home. Some people have to transfer for their major too. Think about all the people that have stayed, though. It is a way way bigger number.

Hang in there, stick it out, and put in 150% effort in making friends. But make sure you're being genuine and not just trying to fit in with whoever you're talking to. Be yourself so that the friends you find will be genuine. You will also have a lot easier time making friends in your sorority if you pick your sorority based on who you are not who you want to be.