hazing

I’m an incoming freshman and I’m highly interested in joining a frat. But I’ve heard a lot of stories about hazing in frats at Rutgers; it’s scaring me a little to be quite honest. One of my friends actually has been quite affected by it. He told me they referred to him often as an inbred snowflake. (I don’t even know how that’s possible). To this day even as a brother the other brothers give him wedgies as he keg stands. I’m ok with a little roughhousing but I will not appreciate anyone adjusting the position of my falafel if you know what I mean. Any input will be noted...