i was dropped

Yes, it gets much,much better. You are with a group who adored you so much, they invited you to become their sister. Get to know them. One on one. Get involved. It gets so much better! Promise. Hugs to you.

I am not going to lie it hurts. Exactly like you I was cut from my favorites round after round. I finally received a bid from a sorority that I had never considered, and honestly for some reason felt almost embarrassed. Now, a year later I can honestly say that I am completely in love with the sorority I am in. I found the group I fit into within the sorority, and wear my letters with pride. I have to admit that I still to today see girls in sororites that cut me and think that I am nicer/cuter/smarter than them and wonder why I got cut. Now going through the other side of recruitment I realize that 99% of the time the cuts are not personal at all. Just remember give it time, all your love, and you will find your place. Just remember this sorority loves you, and the hurt will eventually die down.

not getting a bid at all.(It happens.) I also got dropped by my moms sorority (she didn't go to AU) and I was crushed. So I decided on another, got dropped and then had to look at several groups I had never considered. Saw sororities I wanted pledge girls that were not as involved in high school or had as high of grades and made me look like Miss America. I pledged a group, still felt down and then I realized...hey, I got a group that really wanted me. Decided it was stupid to want a group that cut me and I put all my energy into achieving as much as I could and I have and still am! It really is not personal usually I know now and it is probably who you know. In 3 years I'm in many organizations and love my sorority. To me, these girls are the top level. My good friend got completely dropped early and she was a AU legacy. She is still hurting and so is her mother. She is beautiful and active, but it happens. The hurt is still there with being dropped, but there are much worse things in life than not getting into a sorority or fraternity. Get involved in campus activities and meet new people and make friends. It will work out.

I had the same feelings when I went through. Looking back on it, I know now it was not personal. It is merely a process. One of my best friends pledged the group that I thought I wanted. Six months later, she told me how much she wished she had gotten a bid to my group. Shocker! We both put more effort into getting to know the girls in our own groups and we are both very, very happy. I cannot imagine being anywhere else. It gets better and better all the time.

The responses to this thread are probably the nicest and most encouraging post I have read onGreek Rànk.war eagle

We all want what is advertised as being the best, then we find out when we get to rush that those sororities that have been pushed as the best takes mostly high legacies. Then many get dropped and the rest have to look at the other groups we didn't think we would need to research. Guess what?! Except for the name (and its not moms or sisters group), they are all the same. Having a great time with my group!!! No sense crying over a group that did not want you.