i received a bid and don't know if i like the soro

What were your top houses that you wanted to be in?

DZ is seen as a bottom tier chapter, but I know a lot of great girls in it. Don't be focused on ranks because thats not what its about, but if you truly don't like it there I would quit before initiation because you don't want to waste your money, their time or your time. However, if I'm being truly honest and don't take this personally if your in DZ you probably don't have a chance of getting into a top or upper middle tiered chapter. If they passed on you early on chances are you have no chance of getting in, but if you made to pref you might have a chance next year and keep in mind that next year you know what they're looking for in a pnm and will be prepared. I always say look at the girls in the chapter then look at your elf honestly do you think you would fit in there, just because you think you have a great connection that doesn't mean the girl your talking to thinks the same, recruiters are supposed to make you feel that was. Keep your head up and follow your instincts.

My advice is to give it more time. If you still don't like it, don't initiate. You still have a decent amount of time before initiation. Some girls don't always fall in love with their chapters right away but do later. DZ has seen something in you that makes them think you are a great fit. At this point, they still know better than you do whether or not you're a fit.

If DZ's rank is a reason why you don't like it, please realize that rankings don't really matter. They affect your social calendar as in how many events you may have and which fraternities you pair with to some degree, but as women we have it easy - we can meet members of different fraternities and sororities quite easily. A fraternity member won't care what sorority you're in as long as he finds you attractive and likes your personality. If he's one of the few who cares about your chapter, then he's not someone you should waste your time on anyway. Personally, I'm not a DZ, but every DZ I have met seems like a wonderful woman!

I hope it works out for you no matter what you choose to do!

Talk to some of the actives about it. A lot of people feel this way after recruitment, but there's a reason they gave you a bid. They see you as someone who would be a good fit. Maybe you just haven't talked to the right girls yet, but they know their cheaper best and see qualities in you that would fit well.

I was in the exact same situation when I went through. I put a house first and ranked another just because. I ended up getting a bid to the just because sorority. I did the same thing after bid day but was told to trust the system and I'm glad I did. I ended up loving my house and looking back don't think any other house would have been right. DZ has a lot of socials and a lot of their girls don't care about tiers which makes them have a strong sisterhood. Give it time and turn your attitude around. If you're that concerned about "tiers", then you joined for the wrong reasons anyways.

As an Alum of DZ I really hope the girls in this chapter know who you are and retract the bid. You should be so lucky to be i such a great, nationally strong sorority.

Hey op, I'm sorry that you didn't get your top choice. I was in the same boat as you 2years ago. I had 2 houses for pref round and didn't want to suicide for the risk of not getting a bid. I'm pretty happy in my current house. I decided to stick with it. I found my lifelong friends there. Yah, every now and agin I wish I would have gotten the other house over the one I'm currently in, but then I wouldn't have met the amazing girls I get to call my friends. Stick it out. You'll find your place, and if not, then quit before being initiated and try again next year.