am i stuck?

If you have been billed you are responsible for at least that portion of your new member bill. Most chapters have had events since bid day and those events are not free. A portion of your bill pays for that.

Why don't you want to stick it out?

I wanted to drop SO badly when I was pledging but I am so glad I stuck it out!!! It literally is so much better once you get 1.) a big, and 2.) initiated. It is totally different and way more fun! Being a pledge sucks because it's a lot of learning, and it's like you feel like you're supposed to love these girls that are your "sisters" but you don't even know them. But like anything else, you can't become besties with anyone over night! It takes time, and just like rush you've got to trust the process. All these mandatory events are in place for a reason, and these chapters have been running for 100+ years - so the girls in charge know what they're doing. If you feel really stuck and out of place, you are 100% not the only one. It just takes time. I didn't meet my best friend in the chapter until end of Spring semester my freshman year, and now I don't know how I would live without her. Big/Little is SO soon! Don't worry!

Because she assumed she knew what my worries were and told me to “get real” like I’m stuoid. Like I said I didn’t think I was going to have instant best friends but there were some things that happened that legit worried me and my parents are already paying a lot for out of state tuition. Sorry if asking fot advice makes me unrealistic and gets me thumbs down

This OP girl is literally not responding rudely to anyone?? Wtf she's concerned over troubling events that have ALREADY gone on within her chapter and you people, especially the ! person, are all assuming she just feels left out or whatever and telling her to leave her sorority cause she's rude and unwanted?? If she's worried about being in her chapter because weird ass things are going on and it's a lot of money that's a problem and y'all are so dumb to be so petty, treating her like you know her entire situation

You're being trolled and bullied by someone who wants ASU greek life to look bad on a public forum. They are not a greek life member. They're trying to gaslight you and forum slide, among other manipulative tactics, to try to gain an emotional response out of a vulnerable person and to use the situation as ammo against asu greek life as a whole. When people cannot control their own behavior and emotions, they look to control the behaviors and emotions of other people (you) in order to fill the subconscious void stemming from a lack of discipline, my guess is that it stems from their parents inability to raise a mentally sound child.

OP, you are wanted. dont believe a word that mean troll says. SHE DOESNT EVEN GO HERE!

Think about it this way... People only put their highlight reels on social media, so all you're seeing is the very best moments of the most outgoing girls.

That is not reality.

Every single girl in your PC is nervous... youre looking at the most outgoing girls and comparing their experience to yours and feeling bad, but you're not seeing all the other new members in your chapter that are ALSO sitting in their dorms, worrying about their same things as you, because that's not an interesting insta post. Theres about 50 other girls in your PC that are feeling the EXACT SAME WAY AS YOU! Your best friend could be in your pledge class, and you just haven't met her yet because she is also kind of nervous and anxious about not feeling established in the chapter yet. Please give it more time, I promise you wont regret it :)