looking for?

I'd say all houses look for certain things in girls (grades, involvement, character, family reputation, looks, personality). What separates the houses is the way they RANK these characteristics.
For example, one house may go--(grades, involvement, family)
while another house may go--(looks, involvement, grades, character)
and another may go--(family reputation, personality, grades)

chi omega (and many other chapters) score you using a numerical system and there are different catagories for each trait. Looks, personality, involvement, etc. So where you lack in other catagories, try to be as well rounded as possible. Once the individual sisters are done ranking, all of the scores are entered into a computer, which gives us our list of girls who are coming back. We then go through that list and decide if anyone who made the cut shouldnt have made the cut. For Pref, this list is essentially and A/B list. The girls at the top half are our first choice, but the bottom half (B) we still want. If a girl on our A list doesnt choose us, then girls from the B list move up. Youll never know if you were an A or a B though. This is how we do it, and how many other chapters on campus do it. No one wants to tell PNMs but I think it is useful for you to know that if you got cut it isnt because the whole chapter didnt like you, its because you didnt fit in the specific catagories that we were looking for that year.

So if a pnm scores well and stuff why would the house take her off the invite list? Is that where the reputation stuff and insta stalking comes in?

I've seen people really like a girl after open house but then we find out that the guy she is seeing is an active's ex, or the actives' sisters ex. It makes for awkward situations for everyone, so the PNM will usually be cut with little if any discussion.

xo is right unfortunately, a lot rides on your scores from one individual. You might have clicked with certain girls in the chapter but it all comes down to one or two girls disliking you which could get you pulled.

What a sorority looks for every year CAN CHANGE! When a new class of sophomores does rush for the first time, sometimes they are hellbent on changing the reputation. And because there are usually more sophomores than seniors, they do have a large voice if they want things to change. So what a chapter has looked for in the past may be different from this year's new member class. If you like a house PAY ATTENTION TO CUES -- do they have pictures up from fraternity formals and swaps and does the girl rushing you mention them a lot... or do they talk a lot about their bible study? If you like the house where you get the party vibe, don't tell them about how you organized the sober club at your school, unless you want to be cut. Be prepared to ask them a lot of sincere questions, all sorority girls generally like to talk about themselves, and most people like good listeners. Never interrupt and never "one-up" an active with a story or your accomplishments, even if you think your story will let them know how good you fit in. Share, but don't be over eager or over the top.