phi mu article

Really? That article didn't have that impact at all on me. Any team I've ever been on had similar rules/expectations. This just says to me that, even if it is as extreme as the article says, that this house has their stuff together. I WANT a house that will push me and improve me during college. If that's not what the OP agrees with, I'm OK with that, that's cool (that's why there are so many houses, right)? But, I don't want the OP's idea of a sorority either, based on her comment and these reactions to it. Maybe we all just want different things from our sorority experience? Shouldn't that be OK?

THIS IS 8 YEARS OLD. LAME to try and bring this up.

I read it too. I was impressed by how bitter she was and that there was no way she was ever going to be happy. I don't know about Phi Mu because I am a pnm. But the article reminded me of several friends who are just not going to go with the flow on stuff. The article talks about how the author's friends and family were shocked she even was going to give greek life a shot. It is not for everyone. It was not for her. I think her attacks on Phi Mu could easily have been made at other houses, but Phi Mu was the target because they were the house that wanted her and that she wanted too, I guess.

I read another thread on here about camps and stuff like that. Group dynamics, working together, sometimes conforming yourself to the goals and purposes of the team, and the like, are all good characterics learned in camps and sports teams and other things like cheer squads and dance teams. The football team at my highschool had shirts about TEAM being way above "me". In a sorority, this is sort of something you have to accept because no member is bigger than the institution. I think this is why girls who have activities and achievements in those areas are seen as good potential members.

@theme-you sound reasonable and mature. I'd be happy to have you as a sister.

Of course every sorority has rules, especially before imitation. But these were absurd. My sorority doesn't give "a huge binder of rules", but instead, a little booklet with all of the members pictures, notes from exec welcoming you into the house, and a few do's and dont's of house rules.
But it's obvious that phi mu takes it to the extreme. Yes, you should be prepared to have to follow a few rules, but that's only for the better of your sorority.

Exactly, but those rules were a little over the top. I understand rules and that's fine, but a huge binder or rules is a little intimidating!

From what I have seen every sorority encourages you attend functions and gets mad if you don't. It is part of being in a sorority.

Every house has rules for their new members and every house is strict about these rules. My house gave us a binder but it was like 1 page of rules (which are pretty normal rules to keep the babies safe) and the rest was the history of our house and the history of our chapter. I will say this, my roommate freshman year was a phi mu and she did show me her binder which is literally of just 10 pages of rules + the social calendar. Some of them are pretty standard like no going upstairs in fraternity houses and that you have to drink out of cups at swaps... other rules are a little absurd and they definitely made it a point that "they are the best so they have to act like the best" and that "everyone wants to be them"

I think that is generally fair; but those terms also refer to the actives and their personalities. So it may depend on context.

No. Every single sorority has rules. And as a freshman you will be required to attend swaps and cheer on your sorority during homecoming. After you're initiated you will not have as many rules. But what we're saying is it's NOT NORMAL to have that many strict rules and treat members that way. That's not what a sisterhood is.

I would say that some sororities have more rules and expectations than others. My sorority is more chill than some of the others, we have rules, and grades are important to us, but we are pretty laid back. I carried Phi Mu all the way to pref and they are really super sweet. They are more into appearance and image than I am, so my sorority is a better fit for me, but I would not let this article turn you away from Phi Mu. They are a good sorority, this is why you have to find the right fit for you, and not listen to all the sh## thrown around.

Chill doesn’t mean “no rules”. Some houses typically described as chill have some pretty strict rules and requirements.

In all brutal honesty - “chill” means “not looks focused” and girls who may feel anxious around better looking girls feel
More comfortable.

This is NOT TRUE. Every year, people say this, and every year, it's not true. People claim that we have to swallow a goldfish which is absolutely absurd. All of the tridelt new members are loved and treated so well from day one. Tridelt does not haze, and anyone who says otherwise on this website isn't a ddd

I'm a tri delt and I can say with 100% honesty that we do not haze, but I can say that about at least 90% of the sororities at UA. If it were the case, nationals would shut the chapter down so fast, and no one wants to risk that. Please stop with the rumors

at wwwwwooooowww-
1. themself
2. your idea of pan love is awful, so I doubt you know much about sisterhood, either.
3. If you are telling PM how to be, then you are just as bad. Mind your own business. You do your house, let them do theirs.

Some of the houses with more "chill" reputations are prohibited by their national by laws from fining members.

“How thin you look”. Do they put you on a diet?