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Ive heard that a lot of girls, regardless of house or tier, end up going inactive and drop before senior year. Is this true? And if so, why?

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They get busy with their lives and schedule and do not see the benefit justifying the costs any more.

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I went early alum, mainly because I grew out of the sorority. I didn't have time, I would rather spend my money on other things, I was tired of the political garbage and judgement that my letters brought. Once you reach your Junior/Senior year, you're just like, "Why bother?". It adds petty drama to your already busy life.

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Wow, I disagree completely. I can't imagine leaving my sorority early. I literally want to cherish every moment I have in it! It's so sad to me that people feel so disconnected from their chapter.
The members that drop are the members that didn't fully get the real experience- they didn't dive head first and get involved within their sorority.
My advice is this: get to know every single girl in your pledge class, get involved- run for positions!!!! When they need volunteers to represent the organization somewhere- GO!!!!, live in the house at least one year, eat your meals at the house, never miss a date party, go to chapter!

Your parents are paying up to $8000 a year for you to do this. You better go all out or don't rush at all. Sororities are truly a special thing and so many people don't view it that way.
my experience in my sorority has been the biggest blessing, but I guarantee if I didn't live in the house or get involved I wouldn't feel that way.

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That's great, "-". I'm glad you had a good experience! The way I see it, it's better for some people than others. I was quite involved and well-connected socially (I'm still friends with my sisters and I'm still involved with the alumnae group), so it wasn't from lack of a sisterly bond.

I'm just a very independent person, set in my ways, and insistent on doing what I feel is right. Ultimately, the process of selection for PNMs was what made me realize my heart wasn't into it. I wasn't raised to be vindictive, judge-mental, or petty- and that was what made me go "inactive". Some people can survive all 4 (or 3) years without putting a single thought into cutting other people down. I can't. That's just not the type of person I am.

I hope this won't sway PNMs not to rush, because I feel like rushing is a great way to meet new friends and get involved on campus- but I'm just putting this out there, because I've talked to several people (within the Greek Community) who felt the same way I did.

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can you expand on your feelings on pnm selection?

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I understand that it can be a harsh reality in the other side, esp if you're in a house that is particularly selective... Watching people get cut for what feels like really shallow reasons can be awful, particularly if you think your sisters aren't the "mean girl" types going into recruitment. But if you are very sensitive, greek life In general might not be your thing,... At least at a campus like bama. There are competitive mean girls in every house who want to improve their pledge classes, and mean things get said in EVERY house, not just the "top" ones. This might be why some sororities have larger senior classes... Legacies rarely drop when they pledge their legacy house, relatives prepare you for this environment and the legacy knows that they need to continue the tradition

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