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Alpha Chi on pref day: "Can't wait to see you on our lawn tomorrow. You're going to be an amazing Alpha Chi. We've been arguing over who gets to be your big!"

In a SHOCKING turn of events, those "nice girls" were flat-out lying. Love it. #otbwd

I don't think that is a very good idea. This is an anonymous website. The house that is actually bid promising is just going to accuse their rival house. We don't need to make pnms think that ABC is bid promising so that they'll run far away from that house during recruitment when it wasn't actually them. I think whoever got a bid promised to them needs to turn them in to Panhellenic, not an anonymous website. If they get turned in, we'll figure out who it is soon enough.

oh and whoever was promised a bid, please make sure you are sure you are sure you are sure that you completely understood them correctly when they supposedly promised you this bid.

You just have to understand that these actives have no idea the process behind it. There's so much more that goes into it, for example: voting. If she doesn't get the votes, then she won't come back to the next round!
An active telling you that just truly doesn't know what the outcome will be. Heck, the rush chairs might accidentally drop you when they are making their list at 4 am. It happens. That's why no bid is guarenteed!

Oh please. Seriously? Now you're gonna get PNMs freaking out on here because they think that the rush chair from their favorite house may accidentally drop them!!!!!!!!!

^^^ I was saying that because there's a billion possibilities that a sorority may drop you. Pnms- it is extremely rare that that would ever happen, but the possibilities are endless. That was a bad explanation, but what I'm trying to say is that one active really has NO control whether you get into her house or not.
So no, you do not have to worry about the rush chair accidentally dropping you, but you do need to know not to listen to that kind of talk because it's bs.

Okay, that's better! Yes, she is right. There are so many girls in a chapter that you should never believe what one or a few girls say to you. You never know what other people in the house are going to have to say or if the actives that told you that will even fight really hard for you when the time comes. Just whatever you do, don't listen to girls who say anything remotely similar to promising you a bid. I know you'll want to believe it so bad, but in the end there's a possibility that it might not end so well for you, so pretend like they never said that and focus on all your options, not just that one house.

You might as well have just said "hey guys my chapter does this all the time no biggie" because that's all anyone's gonna get from this

I'm mostly warning the poster that snitching on these girls/houses isn't a good idea because no one likes a snitch who is a stickler for the rules and it won't bode well for her individually

I'm not sure how your chapter operates, but one of my sorority's crucial aspects to selecting a new member is her character. Labeling a girl a "snitch" for doing what's right is pretty sad. We want girls who are are honest and fair wearing our letters and would never cut someone for following the rules. Stop trying to scare PNMs because of your guilty conscience.

And that's why, little pnm, you don't act super in love and crazy about a house. Seriously, a sorority will drop you if you show that you are so obsessed with them. It's just creepy

you made it up. Not even remotely plausible.

And how do you know that you got dropped because Alpha Gam told other houses that you were going them? This honestly just sounds like someone who is really bitter and wants to harm others.

agree that wasn't a bid promise, but wow. I would be devastated too if a house told me that and then cut me after skit.
If everyone who met her that week just adored her, then how did she get dropped? Some people need to learn to watch what they say when they tell a PNM something like that. If she loved her so much then why would she say that knowing that there was a chance the PNM might get dropped anyway? I can understand letting a PNM know that you're interested in her, but that active just took it way too far. I feel sorry for your friend. Yes, PNMs do need to understand exactly what a bid promise is, and even though what she said is harsh considering the fact they cut her after skit, it wasn't a bid promise.

Because that girl may actually really love you!!!!! She's not lying! I promise if you're told that, they are telling the truth! It's as much of a surprise to that active as it is to you when the active hears the next day that their favorite pnm cannot come back because she didn't make the cut, get enough votes, wasn't high enough to be selected back.
They aren't lying. They obviously wouldn't tell you that just to fool you.

I totally agree with !!! It's so frustrating and heartbreaking for the active when that happens too. No reason for any active to do that to a girl she obviously likes. That's one reason an active has to lobby hard with her sisters for a girl she really really wants. Sadly, there are times when it's not enough.