Stupid question I have

1) The meal plans are mandatory to be financially feasible. All in or it doesn't work. Plus, you are not going to want to cook in your dorm every meal to feed yourself. You are far too busy and those kitchens aren't made for that. Most importantly, you will find that you do a huge amount of sorority bonding at meals. Don't knock it. You can always have friends over as guests for a meal or go for coffee.
3) Not sure what "needy hobbies" means, but college is often when people blossom and come into their own. Shy people find their voice and confidence, people who didn't connect so well in high school find close friend groups, mean girls get humbled and mature. The people who stay like they were in high school are the ones who have the worst time in college. You aren't done with yourself yet.
5) The college experience you are about to have only comes along once in a lifetime. You need to make the most out of it and not be dictated to by your boyfriend' worries about it. If your boyfriend is going to worry every time you do something fun with your sorority and without him, then honestly there is trouble ahead. If he really wanted to join a fraternity would he not do it because you would be worried? Very doubtful. Guys do what they want without considering their girlfriend's feelings all the time. \n\n\n\n\n

Please don’t come to college with a boyfriend. You will regret it. He will cheat on you and after a few swaps you will cheat on him.

Don’t come to college with a boyfriend. He will cheat on you (he already has) and after a few swaps and date parties you will have cheated on him.

Yes the lower tier frats have fun. They’re the ones hanging out with Sigma Kappa and Alpha Phi.

1) You'll have mandatory meals at the house once a week and if you pick the right house for you - you will want to have as many meals with your sisters as possible. You can also bring guests on your meal plan at some houses.

2)Everyone has fun at Bama whether you're greek or not.

3)WTH are needy hobbies?

4)Pres is awesome!

5) Drop the boyfriend whether you're Greek or not - you'll make more friends that way...

Not sure why everyone is telling you to leave your bf. if you’ve been dating for that long, y’all should be able to have an honest discussion about you going Greek and boundaries (what he is and isn’t ok with you doing at parties, etc). Long distance sucks I won’t lie to you, but if you’re happy then it’s no one else’s business. And if at any point either of you aren’t happy anymore, y’all can end it. I came into college dating my high school sweetheart and we’re still dating now going into my senior year

Ok, so you don't really want to eat at the house, you have needy hobbies (whatever that means), and you want to spend every weekend with your boyfriend who attends a different school. Why would you spend $8-12,000/year to join a sorority that you will only participate in half time? Considering all of your own roadblocks, I don't see this as being a good experience for you and then you will drop from the house after taking a bid from a girl that would have been fully invested. Greek life is a blast and fulfilling for the girls that want to do all the stuff during their first two years- be at the house, socialize with new friends, participate in the homecoming stuff, attend football games together, go to all the swaps, formals and darties. This is does not sound like you. May not be a good fit.

What do "lowest tier" frats have to do with your sorority experience? And your boyfriend sounds insecure, controlling, and mistrustful of you and your relationship. Sorry to say that this won't change whether you join a sorority or not, and is likely to get worse no matter what. Don't let a boy, any boy, dictate what's best for you in your college life.