Stressed about my legacy house.

Fyi - Legacies don't mean anything anymore when getting invited back to a house.
Just be honest with your rankings. Your family doesn't need to know how you rank things. It will all be organic and will work put. Good luck!

You need to go where YOU feel happy and at home.

Rank your houses how YOU want and be ready with a good comeback when your relatives pester you with wanting to know how it's going and insisting on all the details. They should not be bothering you during rush so don't let them. But, you don't want your relatives mad or disappointed in you if you tell them that you ranked their house low, or freaking out in anger at their chapter if they think you were dropped unfairly. Tell them you think their sorority is GREAT but that you also like another house(s) too, so it's like neck and neck in your opinions of them. Make sure they understand the sorority's legacy policy (which has probably recently changed like most have) and make sure they know that you will keep an open mind.

I am sorry you are already feeling pressure to join a house whose members you have not even met. For now, just smile and act interested when your relatives start up. Who knows-you may absolutely L.O.V.E. this house when you meet the sisters. You need to do your own thing, however. Feeling obligated to join a house just because of a family history, is not a good way to begin a relationship. Looking ahead, tell everybody that you will keep your mom updated on rush, and they can she will fill them in. Then you decide how much info you want to share with your mom.

If it’s KD or AGD I wouldn’t want to pledge there either. RUN!

Choose for yourself and that will be the best choice. It will work out for you. BE HAPPY!!!

Don't feel so stressed because legacy status has been pretty much stripped away just like they are starting to strip everything else to make recruitment equal. They will title it "Equals-Based Recruitment" soon.