I'm a "bottom house"

Those girls probably wouldn’t have been truly happy anywhere so it’s not the house. Some PNMs don’t realize there is a commitment to joining a house. As you now know, there really isn’t a bottom house at Bama. Keep going and a house with fewer upperclassman allows for great leadership potential within the house and this is a huge resume builder. Congrats!!!

Your greek experience is what you make of it. People think that simply getting the bid somehow equals this automatic experience of PERFECT FUN and some go one stop further to think that a bid from specific houses equals automatic perfect fun and from any other house means that it will be less than that simply because of the letter on the house.

The truth is, it doesn't matter which house you're with, you have to work at that experience and actively pursue what you want it to be.

I'm going to guess that those girls fall into the "if I'm not in house ABC my experience is going to be terrible" camp and weren't really open to anything else even though they said they "tried." No, they didn't. They judged. That's not trying.

People like that piss me off because they ultimately took a bid from somebody else who would have been thrilled to be in that house that they dropped out of. I know we say people shouldn't drop out or suicide, but i've never fully agreed with that. If you know deep down that you're not open to other houses, and you get cut, then perhaps we should encourage those girls to drop, not "hang in there."
If they get to pref with that desired house and one other, and they know they ONLY want that house, then perhaps they SHOULD suicide and not take the spot from somebody else. I know that's an unpopular opinion, but I want people who want my house Not people who say "i'll give it a shot but I don't really like you for superficial reasons that have no basis in anything." Why should a house waste their time on people like that?

It's SK isn't it? Thought so.

Wait until gamedays and all the other stuff really starts happening. They will see and be sorry they are left out.

It is ridiculous to drop after a week and a half, no matter what house you're in. Swaps haven't even started yet, or football weekends. There's been barely any time to meet new friends. So stupid. So many girls get feel letdown after the hoopla of bid day and the retreat is over. Life goes back to normal and they are wondering why am I not the center of attention anymore? Where's the constant birthday party atmosphere? They think they are going to instantly have 100 best friends and it doesn't work that way. Let them sit in their dorms alone. Who cares? Have fun in your house...go to meals and all events and you'll find your people.

If people are dropping out will this open up spaces for more COB? I didn't receive a bid during rush and would love to hear from some of the houses that now have space.

This post is funny, life on campus is not boring if you aren’t in Greek life. It’s 10x cheaper and there are a lot of really fun and cool girls outside of sororities

It’s not just the bottom houses with girls already dropping. Some girls just can’t handle alabama Greek life or expect perfection when they join. Keep putting yourself out there and friends will find their way to you

Plenty of houses lose new members in first weeks not just bottom houses.

There are several reasons women drop, but the one I don't understand is when pnms drop one house in hopes of joining a different house the next year. They are pretty much all the same. Why would pmns think they will be happier with a group of 400 women that did not want them as a member vs the group of 400 that did want them. All in their heads.