why not let pnm’s cut

Bc then 1700+ PNM’s would cut all but the top houses and the process would be a joke. The girls in the houses know who would be a good fit, probably more so than most of the girls rushing. I get the process is hard and I’m sorry you were cut, but the system does its best to match you to the house that wants you/that you fit in at. I talked to girls whose roommates/friends had 1/no houses back at pref and would have loved the chance for 2 houses, so you already did better than some there.

You can cut houses... it’s designed a perfect way, if you trust the system you end up where you belong. The girls know their sorority know better than you, they know if you would fit in with them. It’s sad you gave up on your would have been sisters because they weren’t “good enough” for you. You could have been pleasantly surprised after meeting sisters in a normal setting after bid day, but you didn’t even want to try. That says a lot about your character. If you don’t wanna trust the system then Greek life just isn’t for you, sorry.

I never felt a connection with the 2, which was why I wanted to drop them day 1. I didn’t really have any preconceived notions of what the “top” houses were and reading this site certainly doesn’t help with that. I just had two where I was really comfortable and had great conversations.

You do realize that if you guys were allowed to “cut” houses then most PNMs wouldn’t get houses back period.... this system is made to help you guys and make it easier on y’all.

"I didn't feel a connection" is just the new excuse for "I'm a snob and didn't want to try because I perceive these houses to be beneath me".

It takes time to develop a connection to your sorority. It's not always love at first sight and there's a huge comedown when regular sorority life sets in and it's not constant balloons and coordinated conversations. Maybe you just think you had good conversations because you had a good rusher. That's what good recruiters are supposed to make you feel like. Doesn't mean they felt the same about you.

You should've given the houses you had left a chance.

You did cut houses, honey. You cut the two houses that wanted you.

Once upon a time,
Girls were able to rush whichever chapter’s they wanted. So many of these girls wanted to feel like they were the fairest in the land and felt like the only way to be this way was by joining an “elite” chapter. But the elite chapters could only take so many girls. They would keep so many girls up until the final round, make all the girls feel wanted, so that at the end the elite chapters got to pick exactly who they wanted, leaving so many girls at the end without a home.
The 26 NPC organized a meeting and determined enough was enough. There were so many girls missing out on the Greek experience because all their eggs were in one basket. So they came up with universal rules for recruitment that every chapter would abide by. These rules have allowed so many girls to enjoy the Greek experience.

The End

Not to be devils advocate here but i totally understand her choice to drop out of recruitment.

It's a shame she didn't give those houses a chance but it makes some sense if she never grew to appreciate them. Aside from that, the financial risk with greek life is very high and not everyone has the money or wants to spend the money on something they're not totally sure of!

So in hindsight she saved herself a ton of money and tim., And allowed another girl to take her spot at an awesome house!

Newsflash: every school does it this way. Or else every girl, who thinks she's the queen bee, would list the five most popular sororities, and they would all have 800 members, and the others, especially the "unpopular" (ugh) ones, would close. And that would benefit...no one. It's called RFM. It's instituted by NPC. If you have a problem, take it up with them. But I doubt they're going to change it based on the opinion of one person versus the 100,000 mostly happy girls that get placed every year.

If the chapters were 25 or 40, I could see where meeting 6 people might make you feel like you don't fit in. But if you can't fit in with 400 people to choose from, the problem is you...not them. And the problem is, "I'm too good to wear these crappy letters, since I was Regina George at my small town high school and I thought I would be the same at a college with tens of thousands of people."

Tough luck.