Already feel counted out

shove it ! Mean Girls went out of style 20 years ago.

I don't agree that this only matters to freshman. At other schools, that may be the case, but not here. They are many alumna and parents who care way too much about rankings here at TCU. Some people forget that this is in fact, a Southern School.

If you depend on your letters to make an impression then you really don't have much going for you in the first place, especially if you give a rat's ass what alumnae and parents think, then you get what you deserve. They don't affect your school experience, your social life, your friend group. If you are a hot girl, if you are sweet, if you are fun, you will be well liked no matter your letters.

Then drop already. Then you can say you're not in any sorority and see how you are judged on that. Or you can say that you used to be in XYZ but dropped out, and be judged that way. Then you will have to find another excuse to blame for people not treating you according to your expectations.

If you are so worried about being judged by judgey people then you are exactly right, "there is no point in even being friendly and trying to talk to people."

I’d like to point out that we’re literally on a site where people do rank and rate sororities and say negative things about the members of some of them. People don’t do this blatantly in person it’s not a sitcom but if you think it doesn’t have an impact on how someone views people that just isn’t accurate

How horrible to feel like in a whole school you can only be friends with girls in your sorority bc the rest of the school won’t give you a chance

This is what is horrible about this school how could you put it back on the girl. If in your first few days at a school every sorority except lower ones say they don’t want you that is just supposed to not be upsetting? There isn’t anything wrong with them they feel ostracized because they were it can be overcome but don’t invalidate or blame them. Not everyone knows how rush works or shows up to it at their best. The social system here is hard but you can find your people. Don’t listen to anyone who says the sorority you’re in doesn’t make it harder

Ostracized? WTF. If you think your sorority membership has advertised you to be in some kind of social losers club then you deserve all the blame for it and you should GTFO. Turn in your pin that embarrasses you so much and take your "lower ones" attitude with you. You are the LOWER ONE and you make your house bad. That is a chip on your shoulder that your sisters don't need and you are exactly the pathetic weird person that people think you are.

If there is no stigma then why doesn’t adpi have mixers with other frats or sororities? If there is no stigma then why did aopi close? If there is no stigma then why are there a million articles online of other people who feel the same way? If there is no stigma then why did half my pledge class cry when they saw my sorority on their bid card? Why are there no group chats with frat invites to tailgates or parties? Why have I been introduced as she’s as XYZ but she’s cool? No one is saying you can’t make any friends if you’re in a lower tier one but there is a negative perception of you off the bat and for just sharing how it made me feel you called me a weird loser, these are the kind of people in Greek life at this school

So drop. There, FTFY.