cuts during recruitment

I'm glad to see that this question was asked. Not because there is an easy answer that fits every group but because too often we focus on who cut us instead of who placed you high on their list and could see wanting to be your sister. Friendships that last a lifetime can come in any house. That is your goal not greek letters that go on a T-shirt.

PS Saying the alumni pick any house's new members is just ridiculous and proves the person who made that first post has no idea what she's talking about.

please stop spreading that false rumor that girls wont be invited back unless they are legacies. most of the girls I know in chi o are not legacies

It will be hard to not feel like being cut isn't personal but it isn't. They can't even know you as a person. Focus on those that invite you back. Life is too short and all our houses are good.

I hope people can take this to heart. It is hard but do not play the name game and get upset if you don't get invited back to a certain house. Be happy for those that do.

Every house is different but basically the PNMS are listed in order of preference and then that is matched with what the PNMS preference list is. That is how things are "mutual selection". Like others have said, you will have a better experience if you focus on your invites and not your cuts. Also, never leave any house that your receive an invitation to off your list. That has berm given the name "suicide". If you leave off a house, they could have been the only one that was going to invite you back and you end up with no bid. I hope this helps you out.

I am going to bump a couple of these good information posts because PNMs are nervous and asking the same questions.

Every house looks for different qualities. Some key in on grades, looks, zip codes, bank accounts...The truth is you can't change who you are so be happy when a group invites you back. Know that they valued you and let the other things go.

I hope every girl will read this. It may seem personal when you don't get asked back by a group but it isn't. The groups cannot know you enough for it to be a reflection of you as a person. Different groups place higher emphasis on different traits. Some girls will have legacies to help them out. You can't be in control so know you will end where you are wanted and be happy with those new sisters regardless of what letters they wear.

This is another 2014 thread full of good information. Bumping for 2015 PNMs.