how many got cut completely?
by: HeartbrokenI didn’t get an invite to Preference party. Am I alone?
#1 by: You are not alone in this
But this system is so jacked up. Severe cuts on day 1 where many pnms had 1-2 houses- is horrible!
You are not alone- you are on a campus with fellow sooners and there are tons of organizations available. I know that doesn’t make this any better. With crazy cuts and whatever happened last yaar- sounds like there will be snaps and COB soon. I am not Panhellenic- please do not take it personally. It had nothing to do with you. It just feels like it. Sending you hugs and love. You did nothing wrong.
Commentby: To heartbrokenAug 14, 2019 5:44:27 PM
I know you are still stinging from recruitment- however- COB may be getting ready to kick off. ❤️ Still pulling for you.
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#2 by: Heartbroken also
I also did not receive an invite for preference round. The whole process was brutal. I tried to stay positive even after round 1 cuts. I wasn’t set on a particular group...just looking for sisterhood. It’s a very negative way to begin college. The positive, I made some good friends in my walking group. I wished them well as I headed home yesterday. Not sure what advice I’d give others. Not having connections hurt. I’m also on the quiet/shy side. Rush was overwhelming for me. Looking forward to getting some rest before school begins. Not mentally ready to consider COB at this point. Researching other groups to join to connect with the Sooner community.
by: MaybeAug 13, 2019 8:33:48 AM
You could still get a call with a snap bid today... and no one would know the difference but you and the people who call you. Good luck with whatever happens.
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by: Ridiculous this happened Aug 13, 2019 10:01:44 AM
These girls were looking for a home away from home. Chapters looking for COBs and snaps- be open to the girls who were not connected for whatever reason- they are hidden treasures who can add richly to your house. It is horrible that pnms were dropped bc cuts were harsh. Sounds like too many houses were permitted to keep more than their share of pnms. It’s not right.
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by: CutsAug 13, 2019 10:57:20 AM
Agree. Probably a combination of groups were allowed to invite too many back after round 2. I feel like we had way too many at house tours say they were going back to APhi. (and bad form on the PNMs part in mentioning it at another house).
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by: CutsAug 13, 2019 10:58:34 AM
by: A PhiAug 21, 2019 6:45:28 PM
by: To cutsAug 13, 2019 11:08:34 AM
Yes- cuts help pnms redirect their attention. What I am saying too many houses were permitted to keep more than the lion’s share of Pnms.
Too many Content with the status quo alum influencing Panhellenic.
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#5 by: Rare
To be honest it is rare, or should be rare, to get cut from all 11.
Unless...
1. Your GPA is below a 3.0 - if this is the case try COB where they have more time to get to know you as a person. Formal is just too many to get to know someone is worth making an exception for. Or work on rocking your grades and trying again.
2. Occasionally legacies fall through the cracks, especially if the legacy ranks legacy chapter last on an early round and/or they are cut by the legacy’s chapter. These girls will usually receive snap bids. If not COB is another chance to show your interest.
3. If the PNM made a faux pas during a party. Seemed disinterested, rude, talked about liking other sororities better (weird, but happens). drinking, parties, boys etc. Once again, try COB then they know you are interested. They won’t take a chance on someone who seems disinterested bc they have to make cuts and those are the easiest. And gives you a second chance if you were talking drinking and partying to correct that impression.
Good luck. Sorry it is such a brutal process. But keep at it. Sisterhood is a lifetime and worth it.
#6 by: @Heartbroken
Hoping you received a snap bid today. If not definitely give COB a try. It is a much more natural way to be recruited really. Gives you a chance to know them, and for them to get to know you as a person. I often recommend women skip formal for COB. Especially if they don’t have connections or great grades. Good luck and best wishes.
by: You are not alone Aug 13, 2019 1:43:42 PM
#8 by: Mom
There were great girls who got cut completely. My daughter is one. High school GPA 3.88. Active in high school clubs/activities/community service/debutante. Leadership including GS Gold Award. Although not PC, but for what it’s worth, attractive. Unfortunately, I assume the issue was having no sorority connections and being an introvert. Interacting in massive parties with limited time is difficult for those on the reserve/shy side. I’ve encouraged her to consider COB but she’s not ready. Sad that her college experience is starting this way.
by: SadAug 14, 2019 7:37:21 PM
Sorry that happened to your daughter. Some great girls fall through the cracks. Even if they have great interactions at parties, not all members have equal influence. Or if someone is shy it can come across wrong with no time to correct it.
Hopefully she will give COB a shot. She can’t go wrong. With her resume she should be able to click. Instead of being one of 1200 girls sitting in a party of 100. She will be one of 10 to 15 girls watching a movie or decorating cookies or painting crafting. During COB the members get to really know the person.
Crossing my fingers that she gives it a chance. Totally worth it.
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by: Too many 300+Aug 21, 2019 10:01:49 AM
No one will be able to answer that. Pan won’t hand that info out. But we can guess the number that we’re cut or dropped with houses left.
Quota I heard was 78. That means approximately 858 girls attended at least one pref party. There were 1176 signed up. So approximately 318 girls dropped, were cut completely or were no shows. Way too many. Pan need to work on this. Girls come into rush with no clue how it really works. Or why it runs they way it does. Some get cut to 3 houses and quit. Others with low grades would be better off doing COB if they don’t have really strong connections. Same with shy Introverts. There are just too many going through formal for it to be anything except a numbers game based on resume.
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by: Too badAug 21, 2019 6:56:15 PM
It's too bad that sites like this and parents who reinforce ideas that only a few houses are worthy give girls the idea that they should drop out if they get only the "bottom" couple of houses back. Imagine how much healthier our greek community would be if all the houses were so packed with great girls that we had to open two or three more houses.
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by: faultAug 21, 2019 11:45:53 PM
Yes, it's the fault with GR and all the poor insecure people on here who say "these are the houses that are top tier -- they're the only ones it's not embarrassing to join." Anytime somebody expresses a different opinion people get jumped on
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by: ^Aug 22, 2019 8:07:07 PM
I hate to say this but parents and alums are the problem. Everyone is acting like it's a competition instead of a way for pnms to find the best fit for themselves. Just because a house was great for mom when she was in college doesn't mean it will be great for her daughter. But moms are so determined that their girls get one of a small number of houses that they tell them they'd be embarrassed if they choose a different house.
If we want a change, we have to be that change.
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by: You are not alone in thisAug 13, 2019 2:26:34 AM
How about that Panhellenic ? Where are you now ?!
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