got my 2nd choice

This is typical KD

I'm really sorry to have to tell you this, but the girls in your first choice are straight up lying to you. You are right; the computer matches PNMs choices to Chapter Bid Lists. So, if you listed them first, and they had you on their first Bid List (anywhere, as long as they got to your name before reaching quota), then you would have received a Bid there, regardless of where your 2nd choice had you on their list. It would've been an automatic match. Your first choice matched quota before reaching your name, so the computer moved on to your second choice, and you were high enough up on their list that they hadn't reached quota yet when they got to your name-so you received a Bid from them. The girls in your first choice aren't worth your time-they are straight up lying to you to save face. Focus on building friendships with the girls who actually loved you enough to ask you to be their sister, and enjoy your new amazing sisterhood. I bet a million bucks that this time next year, you will be wondering why you ever put them second, as you'll realize that you're right where you belong and have been since you received your Bid!

which houses?

It doesn't matter.
You're with your house now, and that's the only one that matters. Nobody gets a do-over.
Give it up, forget about it, and concentrate on your own house.

not possible. they are lying.

All of the points made in n these responses are completely accurate. If you were as high on the bid list of your first choice house as these girls have told you, you would have matched, even if you were a legacy and ranked at the very top of your second choice bid list. When it comes down to matching at the end it is the priority to match the girl with their first choice whenever possible. The only time that this doesn't happen is when a chapter has filled their quota with girls who also want them first before they reach your name on their bid list. They definitely liked you a lot if you made it to pref day, but unfortunately you weren't listed high enough of their bid list, no matter what they're telling you now. Also very true that very few girls in each chapter see the final bid list that's turned in to Panhellenic, so other than legacies at the top of the list, very few people know exactly where any one person's name fell. You will get to see this side of all of this next year when you're on the other side of rush at the house that you just pledged, the house that wanted you badly enough to give you a bid and the house which you will grow to love and call your home!

That's not possible. They are definitely lying to you. If you were high on their list and you listed them first you would be in that house. If you were ranked high in both houses, you'd go to your first choice.

Sorry, they lied to you. For this to happen, you were on the bottom of the list.

These girls were put on the spot and were trying to spare your feelings. To brand them as liars is not fair.

If actives told you this on perf night they were lying to you. No one sees the list except Rush chair. Girls are not allowed to tell you that you got a bid, because they just don't know. I hope you consider staying with the second choice sorority, because they are the ones who had you higher on their list. And if you are really upset about thow this turned out, I'd tell judicial board, because. I'm sorry that they lied to you, and if they are talking to you know about it and are saying that you had a bid, you most likely were below the cut off line. The system works the way it's supposed it. If they gave you a bid you would have run to them on bid day.