moving away and scared
by: PnmI want to go to Ole Miss so badly but revently i have gotten cold feet! I am literally so so so scared to go now bc i felt so lonely at orientation. I moving far to come here. Did anyone else feel this way and are you happy you ended up at Ole Miss?
#1by: Wondering?
Are you the same girl who came on here a while back asking about airport transportation because you were planning on attending orientation by yourself? We warned you at that time not to attend orientation by yourself! Most kids have their parents with them and are busy learning about ole miss with them rather than spending time trying desperately to make friends and fit in. Sure, orientation is a time to make friends, but not the best time to judge what the students will be like and our fit with them. Most of us relied on holding our parents hands and gaining confidence through them. (we are still not complete adults yet)
Once everybody moves into the dorm, the true dynamics will begin. Your first three weeks will be lonely! Girls will begin to clique with girls from their hometowns, but it certainly won't be a love fest! Rush is very competitive and girls won't just instinctively trust you, especially with you being from Oos. I cried to my mom on the phone at least once a week.
You will have to seek out and find other girl who are having a hard time fitting in. If you try to fit in too hard with existing cliques, you will feel like a sore thumb!
You will be fine! I wouldn't trade the last two years for anything, and I can't wait for the next two to begin!
Commentby: okay
I've been that odd girl out my whole life as well. I came to Ole Miss with high expectations as well. Because of connections, (and a good resume, gpa, and looks) I landed in a top tier sorority. IT WAS HARD! On bid day I only knew a few girls from my floor and wasn't friends with any of them. I knew tons of sophomores, but after bid day, they no longer stalk you and call you every five minutes; and you are left with your pledge class. IT IS HARD! I didn't make instant best friends, but I made instant okay friends.
I pledged two years ago and I would love to say that I have all my bridesmaid's picked out, but that is not the case! I do however, have a group of girls that I can and do hang out with, even if I feel like the odd man out.
I have no idea why you chose Ole Miss so far away from home. Just like in your hometown, fitting in is hard work! But I'm sure you will find a group of girls you feel comfortable enough with to have some fun! Swaps are fun! Date parties are fun! Movie nights are fun! Meals at the house are fun! Running into your pledge sisters in the airport while you are waiting to go home over Thanksgiving is fun! Hanging out in the Grove is fun!
Trust me, you will have a blast! Be realistic about making friends. Some friends are put in your life for a lifetime, others for just a short period of time!
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by: pnm (original poster)
just wondering, why are you surprised I chose Ole Miss?
They have a lot of out-of-state students which comforts me a little bit more because I know I am not the only person who is going to feel this way.
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#2by: Pnm
by: okay
You will be encourage to bond with your pledge class. New members can't even go into a chapter meeting (or even the chapter room) until after you are initiated. You will have pledge meetings, pledge retreats, pledge activities... You will get a big sister, a sophomore, and she will be there, but no, we don't just hang out in big groups of mixed grades. Your big will be randomly chosen, neither of you will get much of a say. Some houses let you give them a list of who you would prefer to be your big, but that's not guaranteed. You will see the older girls at swaps and in the dining room, but no, their cliques and routines have already been established.
I am not from Mississippi. I am from two states away.
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#3by: pnm (original poster)
I have done a lot of thinking (I read my post and it is kind of all over the place because I am pretty insecure right now) and basically I just want to know if it is easy to make friends in your classes, at the grove, in school clubs, etc? Around here, it really isn't because most people stick with who they have known.
I feel like if there is already "clique" I should just steer away because there is a good chance I am not going to fit in. I just need to find like minded people.
One of my rec writers told me everything I am feeling is completely normal, so I feel a little bit better now lol.
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no matter where you go to school, just follow your heart.
If you want this, you got this girl! You will find likeminded people.
If you come across people and y'all don't click, that is completely OKAY! There are so many other people you can be friends with. Like one of the posters said, I think you will become close with someone who also came from far away. You will have your pledge class for the sorority you join. You can join another club on campus.
You need to be yourself out there and things will get easier in time. So, yes it is going to be hard but you are becoming an adult now. I am not gonna sit here and tell you it is gonna be easy because it isn't. This is life and you just gotta roll with it. College is your time to find yourself, your friends, your passions and go after your dreams.
I wish you the best, and I hope you find a wonderful house of girls click with during rush. Keep your head up.
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by: Pnm
I did not post that but I did go orientation by myself. There were a few other people who went alone as well which suprised me.
My main worry is that I am not going to make any close friends. Im scared that everyone will already have their groups of friends and I will just be the odd girl out. I have been that my whole life and I will be so depressed if college is like that too.
This is why I don't care about tiers, i just want a close sisterhood to make these feelings go away.
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