how to disappoint your mom?

Me! and to make it that much worse not only was my mom Ole Miss in-house but so was one of my sisters and it was one of the so called "top three"- and my mom was planning on be in town for bid day and kept talking about "running to our house"- but honestly I just could not see myself there- I gave it ever chance I could... and at the end of sisterhood I ended up ranking it lower than my others and did not get them back for pref. It was very hard to tell her, but in the end she was awesome and said that the only thing she really wanted for me was to have the same experience and love for my sorority as she did for hers. She still came and met me at my home that wasn't hers and bought me all sort of stuff with my new letters- I know she was disappointed but she never let it show and never made me feel bad for my choice.

College is all about growing up and figuring out who you are and hopefully your mom will be as great as mine- was- sometimes it is hard to disappoint people you love but you have to be true to yourself and make yourself happy. GOOD LUCK

remember it’s YOUR rush! not hers :)

You said you had "Weird Conversations" in your legacy house, and you thought they were going to cut you based on it, but they obviously didn't. I'm just wondering what was weird about them? Assuming you can be vague enough not to be recognizable.

As far as your mom goes, I had my legacy house and another house that I really liked at Pref, and I called my mom and just broke the news that I was putting the other house first, and we'd just see what happened. My mom was bummed when I got my first choice, but she got over it. Do what's best for you. You're the one that has to be there four years.

This is why I never put my daughters in those "Future XYZ" shirts, or insisted that they had to join my sorority. Back when I rushed, I was a legacy, and there was so much pressure on me to join that sorority. I did because I didn't want to disappoint anyone, and while I do love my sorority and my sisters, I would have been just as happy, if not happier somewhere else.

I swore I'd let my daughters have their own experiences, and the first joined a completely different sorority at her college, and surprisingly, my current daughter actually really loves my sorority so far. If she has it and another to choose from tomorrow, and decides to pick the different one, I couldn't care less.

Do what's best for you. Your mom will understand.

Don't believe all of this - this is actives of less desirable sororties saying this to sway legacies away from their legacy house.

I know how this works! My sorority and every sorortiy does this!! We say it's good to be a legacy when it works for us and we say don't worry about pledging your legacy house when it works for us!! LOL

Shut your mouth and don't take the bait!!!

These posts are written by moms! Rarely do actives write this much stuff! LOL