what now?

GTFO this site old lady! You don't belong here.

same thing here-great convos and even told they loved me and then dropped

They loved other people more

Thank you so much for this reassurance instead of dragging me down for dropping out. I hope my social life isn’t affected by this.

yeah girl if you have a good set of friends rn you will be fine. plus youll make more friends your sophomore year so don't fret.

STFU you have no idea what you're talking about. Girls who re-rush have to do something completely different to get better results. Girl on my floor last year went to big Indianapolis high school with tons of connections. Dropped before pref because she only had ASA, DPhiE, TPA and ADPi left. Went through again this year, just found out she went to pref at TPA and ADPi. Yeah, pretty much the same results. She just realized this is her last chance to be Greek. Girl from my high school got invited to pref last year at SDT, ASA, DphiE and dropped. This year dropped before pref with TPA and DPhiE on her schedule.


Sophomores who re-rush cannot be selective stop giving out advice when you don't know crap. Stop giving people false hope. Having a successful re-rush is the exception not the rule. Girls tend to get the same or similar chapters back both times.

My freshman year I rushed at a school with a mid-sized greek life in an urban area where some sororities were housed and some weren't. Some of the chapters that weren't housed had a floor in a particular dorm for them to live in if they wanted, but not everyone did that, either. Having a house helped chapters with name recognition, and I remember before rushing thinking it didn't make sense to pay the same amount in dues for a chapter without a house as a chapter with a house. When I went through recruitment, I got a bid to a chapter without a house, but I didn't care that much because I had fallen in love with the chapter itself. That being said, later that year a chapter that was housed lost their house, and my chapter got to move into it over the summer. Once I could see recruitment from the other side, and had friends who were on Panhel/were rho gams, I noticed there was a lot of politics around having a house which is why it was such a big deal on my campus. Chapter houses weren't owned by the chapters themselves, but in contract with the university, so if you got in trouble, you could lose your house, and it would be very obvious to PNMs what chapters were in good standing with the university. So there definitely are other campuses where sororities are both housed and unhoused, but the politics and climate surrounding housing at each campus is different, so I would hesitate to assert too much expertise on something when it's very nuanced. This applies to all houses renting at IU too, since people on here act like they're the head of the housing board for the nationals of any given chapter, saying "XYZ will have to give up their house this year" "ABC gets to keep their house for 100 years" when it's so much more complicated than that, and none of us really know.

I believe they are refering to those houses that are rumoured to be still growing (not suffering?). It's true that there are great qualities to every sisterhood here and there's a place for everyone and anyone who is committed.

This is not about "political correctness." The nuance you are not understanding is that you (and many PNM's) use some really flawed sense of status to measure "fit." If your measure of fit is what you think is the "popular" crowd you are confusing this with high school. What everyone on here has been telling you, is that once the novelty wears off, your chapter is like your family. And guess what. A major portion of your life transcends that family. No one asks what sorority you are in before they will talk and interact with you. Academics, sports, other activities OUTSIDE of your house exist and not one of those things is dependent on the letters you wear. Yes, you are committed to your chapter and sisters, and some of them will be your sisters for life. Greek life can be amazing. But the reality is that your sorority is not WHO you are. You will have close friends, classmates and colleagues who are Greek, and non-greek. That is the real world.
If you didn't think you would be happy in a chapter, and dropped before pref, whatever. But I doubt we would be having this convo if you had gotten invites to house that YOU perceived were top houses. It is disingenuous to try to frame it any other way. So yes, we are sorry for you that it did not work out the way you assumed it would. If you decide to do this next year, perhaps you should reconsider your assumptions.

clap clap...best post of the night

You didn't fit into DPhiE...well obviously you didn't fit into 21 other chapters either. Maybe you need to re-evaulte yourself and be realistic. If you didn't fit into DPhiE and 21 other chapters didn't think you fit in there, then exactly where do you fit in? Smallwood? Varsity Villas? University Apartments? Take a good hard look in the mirror honey. You are a straight up beyotch. I hope you did one good thing and did DPhiE a favor and dropped.

@notanoldlady, I think you misunderstood these posts. My guess is that most of them come from seniors who TOTALLY GET THE FACT THAT THERE IS LIFE OUTSIDE OF THE GREEK SYSTEM. The point is that if you want to be Greek it should be about wanting to have benefit from the positives of Greek life, not about needing to have a weird sense of superiority. No one says you cannot find a wonderful experience, and lifelong friends outside of the system--especially at a school like IU. I am afraid you are the angry bitter one.

I think a lot of these type posts also come from IU sisters who are trying to be "Panhellenic" but they honestly are going about it the wrong way. It's well and good to say "tiers don't matter! Sisterhood is most important!" if you always get great pairs and your pick PNMs.

I was in a chapter that struggled and the last thing we wanted was "anything is better than being GDI" people. They brought the whole sorority down.