what do sororities look for?

"MSU" the humble comment was unecessary AND mean. The PNM was just being honest. Lets face it, who you know in a house and where you are from does bear heavily in a system in which you have minutes to impress. It is natural for a house to select a known factor over an unknown one so often a PNM known by members will be chosen over someone unknown.

The humble comment was rude. Let's be honest there are a lot of active girls who are far from humble.

Thanks. Honestly I am in no way not humble I was just trying to make the point that I am not less attractive than girls in houses and that's the only way to say that and yes it may come off snotty or conceited hut I wasn't trying to. I have a 3.8 GPA so I have a hard time believing that is an issue as well as extra curricular activities/volunteer work but after reading everyone else's comments as well I see that honestly my personality may just not fit.

There is no magic formula. I know girls in "top" tier sororities who are pretty had average gpas at best and little to no high school involvement. I also know girls who are pretty great gpas and very involved in high school who were dropped from "top" tier houses after the first round. Sometimes you just end up with a bad match with the actives you talk to and you have nothing in common so the conversation is awkward. Sometimes your nerves show so convo is not great. Sometimes it is the late in the day and you are tired and so is the active and things just don't go well. Sometimes houses screwup and let great girls go because they have to cut so many. I know you are disappointed and confused but you will drive yourself crazy trying to figure out why. I am sure you are a great girl and hopefully that one house works out and if not try again next year.

They don't look that closely at GPAs and legacies don't always get priority. There have been a lot of legacies not chosen by a sorority - it was a big think last couple of years. Humble? ha ha ha not really.