How it works for pnms

After open house: pnms decide. The houses have very little say in this round. PNMs drop their least favorite srats. Basically you’re only officially dropped (not invited back) if you were at the bottom of their lists.

After Philanthropy: srats decide. Here we start narrowing down the list based on certain strat algorithms

So what I’m saying is that if you only got invited to your least favorite ones, you had absolutely no chance for the higher ones and need to do some reflection.