still wondering what i did to get rekt

Idk about your experience but IMO the whole rush process is kinda random and stupid. I visited many frats and, like you, thought I made good impressions. Average looking, well groomed and clean, dressed well, showed interest, talked to people, but idk. Maybe frats/sororitys are more hesitant to take in PNMs that don't already know someone in the frat/sorority. Maybe it's something else, cuz I honestly have no other explanation. Maybe someone else does, but I don't. I wanna rush again next semester but am fearful that the same thing will happen. Maybe I go to less frats to spend more time in each one? Idk, if someone can give advice/reasons, go ahead, but I got nothing.

If the last choice you didn’t like was anything but Phi Moo you made a mistake

Sorry that this is still bothering you a week later. No one can really answer this for you because no one was listening to all of your conversations. The process is really a numbers game. It is very superficial. I have super cool friends that were cut by many of what are considered "top" chapters and know some dumb mean girls that got bids to higher tier chapters. It does not reflect on the quality of you as a person. Go to informal events for chapters that are having them in the fall. These are much more relaxed and present an opportunity to spend more time talking to girls. Good luck.

I'd try again. If you're lucky enough to get a bid to any house, understand that they have smart,great women who will become your sisters and share a lifelong bond with you. Don't listen to anyone who talks about tiers. No one cares and you don't want to miss out. Same for frats.