advice
by: well
I do not like my chapter. The girls are nice. I've met some wonderful people but I feel like I do not belong. I am considered southern, Christian and out going and somehow I ended up in a chapter that has a good amount of atheists (not anything against that, just different) and are considered socially awkward by many.
I love everything about being in a sorority...I just do not feel like my personal chapter represents me well. I honestly do not know what I did wrong in recruitment that I somehow ended in this wild card.
Do I drop? Do I wait it out some more? I'm already initiated so it is not like I can rush again. (PSA: I didn't drop before initiation because I had a terrible rush and did not want to go through that again). Ideas?
#1by: Get involved
Well it is this one or nothing now. If you love being in a sorority then pull together the girls like you and make a big presence on campus - if your chapter does spring rush go find girls like you and get them to join. Start working now on the image you want for pc16 and build what you are looking for
Comment#3by: imo
If you can, find other girls in your chapter with your same ideologies. Chances are, you aren't the only one. Start up bible studies after dinner once a week in your chapter room, or find a group of girls to go to church with you on Sunday. If you do all of that, and you still don't really feel like you belong, then maybe decide to drop and join theta alpha or another all christian sorority.
#4by: uh really?
#5by: Speak up
If you don't like things, speak up to your chapter, not to people on this website. You would be surprised to see how other sisters feel the same way and were just waiting for someone else to express their exact sentiments. Also, if you do speak up and get shot down by everyone else, then at least you know you gave it your best try and that dropping is the right decision. But please don't just stay silent and let things get worse, maybe you're that sorority's next president and leader that will make them a strong and better chapter.
by: well
Its not like the girls are bad. Despite what many think, the leadership is pretty good and the sisterhood is as well. I just do not fit the "mold" per say. It's like if a southern, blonde haired, Christian girl was in DPhiE. Amazing girls, nothing wrong with them - just obviously not typical.
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#6by: Maybe...
You're there for a reason! Who knows, maybe youll be the one who changes someones mind! I actually changed my religious beliefs after becoming friends with certain girls in my chapter. Not like it was ever intentional, but in a strange turn of events seeing religion and its impact in my sisters lives inspired me to reach out to them and find God myself! Maybe you'll be that girl people go to when they want to try and find God, and your purpose in being in that chapter is to be a diciple! Try getting more involved in Dolous, and reaching out to girls in your chapter and invite them to go with you! I got invited all the time when I considered myself atheist, and i said no every single time. But when I decided I wanted that in my life, I knew exactly what sisters to turn to! I know it seems hard, but follow your heart, and try to make most out of your time there since its too late to change. Give it time, be open, and reach out to everyone, and you'll find your people! And worse case, you can always fill your need for religious friends by joining one of the community groups around campus!
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by: well
Did you even read the first line? I've found great girls..but i've found others in different chapters here at UF as well. The whole point of being in a sorority and going through recruitment is to find a chapter where the girls around you are similar. Yeah sure, every chapter has that mix but it's difficult being completely different from the majority.
Plus the last thing I want is for people to assume one thing, like i'm socially awkward or whatever, when i'm clearly not.
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