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That's what happens when you fall for the myth of "tiers".

everyone feels uncomfortable in the first month or even couple of months it's all natural. once you get to know all of the girls and find your group I'm sure you'll be happy :)

Rush is short, fast, fake, and superficial. As a result, lots of girls who belong in houses get cut; lots of houses choose girls who don't really belong.

It will take time to find your place! Your sorority saw something special in you during recruitment; there are LOTS of pretty girls in every house, so ignore the people saying they only picked you based on your appearance. You have a lot to offer, otherwise they wouldn't have asked you back and eventually given you a bid. Yes there are cliques in every house; naturally you will fit in better with some people than others. Give it time to find your fit within your house and I think you will be pleasantly surprised <3

I say wait and see if you feel differently as initiation approaches. BUT, I do agree about the superficiality of the process and bidding versus dropping the "wrong" girls. That happens across the board.

I am a transfer from another large university and a sister of sorority that UF does not have. You need to now one thing - it does not MATTER what house you joined of 200+ girls, you would feel exactly the same way. you are fearful you don't fit in? Get to know some girls. Call others. get together. If you cant find 20 girls out of 200 that you have something in common with then you probably don't even belong in a sorority. Concentrate on classes, go eat at your house, talk with the girls. things will be fine. this is real life - live it

There again with the less attractive girls. Sweet Jesus there are beautiful girls in every sorority!! And no I don't just mean "on the inside" but physically attractive. Why all the focus on top tier beauty? Yes many top tier girls are beautiful but I'm sure the confident ones don't need to prove they are physically more appealing than other girls. Wow.

I honestly would give it time! Maybe until big/little and see if that helps and try to force yourself to go eat meals there and get to know other sisters. I personally know girls who have dropped for KD and ADPi because they felt so awkward and had wished they put other mid tier sororities as their number one. Honestly, the tier system will mess it up and some people just get sucked in to a sorority that isn't the right fit!

I was on the fence about my top-teir sorority for a month before I started to find my niche. Now, a year later I'm obsessed with my sisterhood and friends. Just hang around the house as much as you can to meet as many people as possible. Step outside of your comfort zone and invite people to study/hang out/go out with you. Everyone wants to make friends right now.

PS, yes the tier system and rush process is superficial. BUT, if they didn't think you could absolutely fit in with the rest of them because of your stellar personality, they wouldn't have given you a bid.

Good luck! Keep in mind, it's not an automatic group of 200 women who love you and are your best friends... that comes later through constant interactions with lovely women who you share interests with.

It's Friday night and I'm not out because none of my "sisters" wanted to hang out with me. I see their snaps, literally everyone is out and having a good time but no one invites me. I don't understand why they gave me a bid