dropped.. confused?
by: :( ?So like someone else on here that posted earlier, I dropped as well pretty early in the rushing week. I had amazing conversations with all of the ones I ended up loving and the conversations came very naturally. I smiled all the time and was super outgoing and the convos could have gone on forever. However, I was dropped by ADPI, ZTA, KD, DDD, AOII, and Chi Omega. I wanted to be in a house with smart and classy girls and nothing else. Mostly I was looking at DDD and ADPI (which i know is very hard to get into but I love their values) but I just don't understand what I did wrong to get dropped from all of these. Other girls made me feel like complete crap after this round as they were talking their tent talk. I was not interested in these so called"top tier" houses cause that is what they are supposedly called. I just personally had better experiences in these houses because the girls seemed genuinely sweet and like my type of people. The other sorority girls in other houses were still nice but in most of those I got strange vibes and the girls I talked to did not click with me one bit. I am so convinced I was one who fell through the cracks and just had to be cut? does this happen when someone seems like a good fit but they have to get cut? I was just so distraught but more so confused? A girl I met said she was invited automatically to ADPI just because she had a rec letter (they sent her back a letter saying this). I had no rec letters which i regret tremendously because I could have had them. Please nobody be rude calling me some superficial snob who just wanted the "top houses". That's not the case. Also, looks are not an issue here if I am being honest.
Comment#2 by: Not quite correct
"A girl I met said she was invited automatically to ADPI just because she had a rec letter (they sent her back a letter saying this)" No no no. This didn't happen. Somebody is confused. Courtesy invites for the second round go to legacies, not just someone with a rec. And PNM's do not get letters from sororities (strictly prohibited) but those who do rec forms and legacy forms for PNM's do get a letter of acknowledgement. As far as recs, yes, they can make a difference in getting dropped or not.
#3 by: Please Listen
To me. This is real. I am a senior and got a top 3 house my Frshman year. Trust what I am saying. The top is not what you think it is. They claim sisterhood. Not. I have been let at parties by my so called sisters. Not allowed in a room doing a road trip. And basically treated like crap. Do not believe you belong in that top tier house. The last person made a good point that the top houses are very good at rushing people . That is it. I felt the same way you did. All giddy at first. They bait and switch you. The top really is not that nice. Some girls in my pledge class do not speak to me. Some real witches in my house. Girls can be so mean. The top is over rated!
#4 by: Also
Know that when you talked to a girl and you guys had a great conversation and you still got dropped, it doesn’t mean she didn’t like you or chose to drop you. That girl probably didn’t know you got dropped. It’s because sororities compare you to all the other PNMs and it just means that other girls were higher on the list they wanted back
by: wait whatAug 25, 2018 4:49:49 PM
So the girl that rushed me, what do you mean she probably didn't know I got dropped? Isn't the girl that rushes a pnm the one who drops her?
- 0
- 0
by: Takes more than oneAug 25, 2018 6:24:14 PM
No, believe it or not you get more consideration than from just one member. Don't hold anything against a girl who talked to you. She is only one voice in a couple hundred at her house and everyone is fighting for the pnm's they love. It is hard on actives when pnm's get released; please know that actives cry and get emotional over girls they lost!
- 4
- 0
by: ReAug 26, 2018 12:27:26 AM
We rush and give feedback but the girl rushing you is not the final say in if you get dropped or not. It depends on where you are on the list and how many girls that chapter is allowed to ask back, which depends on how many girls want to go back to that chapter
- 1
- 0
#5 by: Rushee
I was cut from those houses and had rec letters to most. I walked in confident and thought it went well. I’m attractive, kind, smart, and I don’t understand it either but it is what it is. If you don’t click anywhere else, drop rush and try again next year. Don’t take somewhere that doesn’t feel like home
#6 by: galgal
So if you think you got dropped for perhaps superficial reasons, does that not suggest that the houses you were interested in do not hold the values you're seeking, in reality?
Or, maybe it's just a supply and demand thing. The supply of awesome, social, pretty girls is quite high compared to the number of top tier sororities who can take them. So regardless of your qualifications are vibe, there just wasn't enough room.
Nothing wrong with being a top-tier fish in a lower tier pond! You can make yourself and those around you the best you can be. Or, you can wish to be part of a club that didn't see your value.
I'd rather be with people who saw my value.
Post Reply
Before you type: Remember, do not post names, initials, or any derogatory content.
YOU MAY ALSO LIKE
Didn't find your school?Request for your school to be featured on GreekRank.
by: >Aug 25, 2018 2:52:15 PM
so then why dont you drop that house if they treat you like crap?
- 2
- 1
Report