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Alum Recs (From one!)

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First of all, I'm was in a sorority at Vanderbilt and my son is going to Ole Miss in the fall. I get asked for recs often and am happy to write them. Here is what I look for: 1. Real interest (and you show this --as many of the other pointed out--by being resourceful) I've had young women contact me via Facebook, LinkedIn, coworkers, my son's friends, etc. National chapters will help you too if you can say specifically why you are interested in that house.\n\n\n\n\n2. My rec is my rep- I take them seriously so I often take the requester to coffee to find out more about them. A rec is only as strong as the information in it. A rec that just says "She's my tennis partner's kid" doesn't really do much good. Make it easy for the recommender--a list of the reasons why you are a good candidate goes a long way. I've even had girl's basically write the letter for me (a huge help!) 3. And if you don't get any, but are still awesome... The real deal is that if you are a great candidate and have a lot to add to a house, a rec is a 'nice to have'. Ladies--correct me if things have changed, but my sorority passed on girls with 10 recs and double legacies if we knew they would not be a good fit. Focus on putting your best foot forward and researching the houses. 4. Your second choice or even third choice may still be amazing- Don't get caught up in the 'brand' of a particular house. Look for where you will be comfortable. Remember this is about you interviewing them too!