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Tips based on what I've seen when my aunt/family friends have been asked for recs. 1) Recognize it's not a given that everyone will write one. My aunt no longer writes recs for girls she really doesn't know; she did a few times and got burnt when they turned out to be less-than-good-character girls. That made her look bad, especially to her own chapter (at OM). That doesn't mean you can't get them from people who don't know you, but it's good to recognize that this is how some alums feel. 2) Write a thank you note. A hand-written note means much more than an email or phone call. Good luck in your search!