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Mom of 3 -- you described another scenario my alumnae group sees, and that is a girl getting dropped early by some sororities because they assume she will want her legacy chapter. They don't want to "waste a bid." This is especially true if the legacy chapter is a popular house. Two years ago, I did a recommendation for a young woman who you might call "the total package" destined for smooth recruitment. Not so. Her SEC school had 17 sororities and she was dropped after first rounds by all but two -- her legacy chapter through her mother and her legacy chapter through her sister. She pledged the latter and loves it, so all's well, but it was devastating to be cut so deeply so early. Something we see a lot regarding legacies is this: as far as cuts go, the worst position a PNM can be in is to have a bio sister in a sorority and attend the same school while the sister is still an undergraduate. That carries a high probability of being quickly cut by all other chapters. Sisters on the same campus do usually join the same sorority -- but is it because it's what the younger one wanted, or is it because she had no other options? I know three girls it happened to recently. In one case, the younger sister is thrilled; in the other two, both depledged. Biological sisters can be very different and the right fit for one may not be for the other... I am glad it worked out for your daughter and that she loves her chapter! And congrats on being a mom who survived SEC recruitment!