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Harsh - here you go

Poster Message:
It can be harsh for pnm's because of their incorrect assumptions and expectations. If you can reset them you will do so much better. Here's the deal: Every pnm is pretty with good grades and good extracurriculars. You are in a different peer group in sorority recruitment and don't stand out like you think you do, that's the first thing to understand. The second is that the recruitment process is not a signup sheet for pnm's, the sororities are doing the choosing. No matter how much a pnm wants or doesn't want certain houses, that's not a factor in their selection process; the sororities don't even see pnm's chapter ranks so they aren't a consideration. Most pnm's will not be invited back to one or more of their favorites and won't even have a full schedule, but they will be given as full of a schedule as possible from among the sororities that want to invite them back. Pnm's do not drop sororities, they only rank them. A pnm's chapter ranks only come into play if more sororities want to invite her back than she has room for on her schedule and so her lowest ones would drop off. THIS IS NOT COMMON AT ALL. Prepare for cuts. With that said, understand that cuts are not personal, they are only part of a numbers game because each sorority is only allowed a certain number of pnm's back to each round. If you aren't high enough in their rankings to make whatever their cutoff number is, it is not because you have been judged as inferior or lacking somehow, and doesn't mean the girls you talked to wouldn't want to be friends with you. I promise you that discussions of pnm's are about trying to find the positive traits and not about fault finding. Sororities are trying to find who fits with their vibe best so it's about far more than your gpa and resume and the other things. And if you feel like you connected with the girls you talked to, then you did even if you end up getting cut, and those actives will get upset when you don't return. But it's a chapter decision and they have to get over it and keep on rushing. So do you. Finally, RANKS ARE STUPID, SUBJECTIVE, NOT REAL, ARE MISOGYNISTIC, AND DO NOT MATTER IN REAL LIFE ON CAMPUS. You will find top girls in every house and not so top as well. And no guy cares what letters a pretty, sweet, fun girl wears. Sororities are about sisterhood and a home away from home. TRUST YOUR GUT and don't worry about ranks or what other people are saying.