Help me understand

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You’re in a big group of PNMs who also have clean social media and a good resume. Did you get Rec letters? Good ones? Did you know actives? Be thankful you have 4 houses left, not everyone is that lucky. Tiers don’t matter except on GR anyways

Did you have recs? And extensive resume? Impressive grades? Additionally your video could have been weird, girls from your hs could have told people you were mean or a standards risk there are thousands of reasons to be cut. You should be extremely happy with your remaining houses

Welcome to A&M - a good resume and clean social media is literally the most basic stuff you need to rush. To have a successful rush, you need super high grades, strong recs, in house connections / friends, leadership, etc. If you even knew the number of Top 10 graduates, legacies, Class Presidents, Drill Team captains, etc rushing - you would be shocked. Almost every single PNM is absolutely amazing & accomplished!!

You probably didn’t do anything ….the reality is that there are way more “top tier” girls than there are spots in those houses.

The good news is that 4 chapters are still interested in you. Be grateful - many PNM’s have only 1 or 2. Some have none. If you trust the process and find your way home, you’ll soon learn that every chapter is amazing and has so much to offer as far as friendships, social events, opportunities to lead and serve, etc. But if you go in with a bad attitude, expect to be cut from all the ones you have left. EVERY chapter here is selective!

A lot of it is about the people you know in the chapters, contacts, etc. For example, did you go to high school with some of the girls or at least to the same high school, did you go to any summer camps with the girls, etc. It’s very helpful if you know people in the chapters. Obviously the other stuff matters but knowing people helps beyond that. Do not beat yourself up about it or feel bad, you are no doubt great regardless of rush. Hang in there.

Do not be discouraged. It is a numbers game and it is a horribly hurtful process for the amazing girls that slip through the cracks. It is really hard if you don't know actives. You may even find that some of the top houses have girls that are typical sorority girls but are so rude and only care about which frats they hang out with. Look for girls that you feel like you can be friends with and the ones that want to get to know you. If a group of girls doesn't want you, do you want to be friends with them in any organization??

Most times, sorority recruitment is just luck of the draw. Maybe the girls who recruited you didn’t vibe with you, or there were just more girls that knew actives than you. Sometimes girls get dropped for stupid, shallow reasons. That doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you! If a house dropped you, they don’t deserve to have a wonderful person like you. Try to keep an open mind for the remainder of recruitment! The sororities that kept you saw something special in you, and each house at A&M has a lot to offer. Also keep in mind that, while being in a sorority can be a rewarding experience, it’s honestly not that serious. Be yourself and I promise everything will work out!

Me too! I dropped. How can they cut me without talking to me? Ask me to cut 3, but have 9 cut me...Makes it seem so shallow & superficial. Such a demeaning process - I expected more from A&M.

3 of my final 4 were the houses I cut. Very active thru HS. Great resume & GPA. Lots of rec letters. I just want to know why.

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