my roommate is trying to get me blacklisted
by: VictimI connected with my roommate on the Ole Miss FB page. We met at orientation and I thought things went well. Apparently not from her point of view. We're both from out of state but she's from Texas and knows a lot of people and I'm from NY and don't know nearly as many girls. Anyway, I found out she confided in someone that she doesn't like me at all and is going to try to get me blacklisted, especially from top tier sororities where she has friends. I've done nothing wrong! Honestly, I think she's jealous of me. How much power does she have to ruin my recruitment? I'm scared!
#2 by: nope
Won't happen, don't worry.
However, you should know that OOS, especially out of region, girls have a much harder time getting into the top tier sororities unless they have loads of connections and pull. Chi O, DDD and KD are almost all Mississippi/Memphis girls with some OOS, but it's harder for OOS girls to get in (Memphis is practically Miss.).
I know many OOS, especially out of region, girls who are devastated when they're cut from the top tiers...it's not personal so if that should happen to you, it won't be because of this situation. Variable quota means that top tier houses have to cut even Ole Mis legacies so that should tell you how tough it is to get into the top tier houses.
There are tons of great houses here so don't limit yourself to only wanting the top tiers.
#3 by: Reb
I would start by trying to find a new roommate. I know it's late, but do you really want to live with that all year long?
It sounds like little miss Texas has a bit of an ego. I always laugh when people come here thinking they are queen bee because they "know" people in top houses.
Listen to Nope. It's good advice.
#9 by: also
I really hope you can get a new roommate, but if you can't, then do what many people have done when paired with a terrible roomie: Never be at home.
Use your dorm room for sleeping only. Study elsewhere, hang with friends in their dorms or apartments, get super active on campus, whether it's your sorority or other things...in short, make this the best semester it could be. Sometimes awful stuff can turn into something great if you let it motivate you into action.
A few other tips: 1) Don't talk about rush with anyone, not just her. I only spoke to my mom about what I thought. 2) If you get asked about her (during rush or otherwise) be totally benign in your answer.
#10 by: @op
I wouldn't worry too much about her. If the Mississippi/Memphis top tiers are easily influenced by mean girl tactics, you (and every other sensible person) are better off going toward the more diverse middle or lower tier sororities. The tiers are shifting anyway. There will always be sororities that the Mississippi girls are fighting it out for, however as out of state students become more established on campus those sororities that have tended to be OOS sororities will start to parallel a different tier structure. There are already a couple of sororities that have some Texas connections, so your roommate from hell could end up in one of those and you could go toward one of the more diverse OOS sororities (where you will probably be happier). Ignore your roommate and go in with an open mind.
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by: VictoriaAug 9, 2017 1:29:10 PM
She sounds like trouble and I would try to find a new one quickly. She probably has a reputation of running her mouth so it will eventually catch up with her.