do i accept a bid or transfer

Accept a bid and see this semester through because if you transfer then you don't have to wait a full year to rush again.

If you know that you are going to transfer, DO NOT accept a bid.

You will be taking that bid/spot from someone else that wants it.

If you have no intention in staying, do jot accept it....yours would be a wasted bid

it sounds like your main issue is with your social life and that could review be remedied if you get a bid but at the same time it is a high expectation to place on any sorority to totally make you feel like you don't want to transfer and fix your social life so I don't think it's realistic to expect all your problems to go away if you get a bed

also going into pledging with an attitude of "if this doesn't do enough for me, I can drop out" is not giving it your whole heart....not giving it your whole heart is not going to have good consequences

I don't see the point of rushing at all if you are seriously considering a transfer. It isn't fair to the women in the sororities and definitely not fair to any PNM whose spot you may take if you accept a bid you don't intend to commit to.

Why do you feel uncomfortable??

I'd really like to hear an answer to that question because honestly a lot of girls say they feel uncomfortable and what they really mean is that they think they're better than those chapters they say that about so I think it's great that you say that you're open to being in and has some already but I honestly would like to know why you feel uncomfortable.

I think it's unfortunate that people put down unhoused chapters because in all reality the experience of being in the housed chapter being in the unhoused chapter is pretty much the same. and it's exactly the same in every metric that actually matters and every metric that could potentially make you stay at IU instead of transferring .

Recruitment isn't real life and clearly there are chapters that are better at presenting themselves a certain way and recruitment their chapters that are just good at presenting themselves at recruitment.

I think that if you join a sorority you need to decide that you're going to put it all in and that you're going to do the work that it takes to get to know your sisters and do 100% to make the best out of that experience...no matter what the chapter is, this is what any pnm needs to do.

If you transfer recruitment at your next school is probably not going to be all rainbows and unicorns either. Especially since you'll be a junior.

I've known girls who have transferred and weren't able to get a bid at their new school either and so they were no better off than they were here in terms of greek life.

from what you're saying in your post it seems like you're having social issues and that it's not about a different issue that can't be fixed. I think that social issues can be fixed and I think that's important to know and to know that sometimes people have trouble making friends in college and that's the reality of a lot of people's experiences, believe it or not. But I think it's important to work on that instead of running away.

Your problems aren't magically going to be fixed if you transfer and in fact it's probably going to be harder at your new school. IU is such a huge school that we have people from everywhere and all types of people and that you're gonna find someone that you connect with and that can be your friend if you put yourself out there and do the hard work. But that depends on you.

Same with sororities. The experience is what you make of it and what you put into it a lot of the time so if you accept a bed here or somewhere else don't it think that it's going to be magically fixing all your problems because it's not and that is an unrealistic expectation to put on any soroity.

Go through with recruitment and give the chapter a fair chance. You haven't transferred anywhere yet. You may change your mind about transferring or you may not be accepted at a transfer school. Don't count your chickens before they are hatched. There are no guarantees.

If you do transfer, do it for academic and career advancement reasons. Don't transfer schools because of social reasons.

It depends where she transfers. At some schools rushing as a junior is very tough, at other schools it doesn't matter that much. In addition, rushing as a transfer is different. That being said, you need to be willing to give ALL the chapters at your new school a chance. The top chapters at the new school will probably be less likely to take juniors, so go in understanding that.

Okay I'm gonna be really honest here. I had a rough freshman year and almost transferred. Then sophomore year I decided to go through recruitment. For me, I also ended up with only unhoused chapters left. I took a chance on them, and I'm not going to lie that the first weeks were kind of rough, but I really feel that I found my home here and that I have found my friends that I was looking for. I didn't end up transferring, and I love my sorority and my sisters. I initially thought I didn't fit in because they were "awkward" and also because I am attractive, but this is such a superficial way of looking at things, and I'm glad that I opened my mind and allowed myself to experience the sisterhood and camaraderie that I was after.

If you're truly open to joining an unhoused chapter, I say go for it. You've got nothing to lose. But you need to be able to look deeper than the surface and also make an effort with the girls. Making friends isn't easy. In a lot of ways college and the real world are different like that. You're no longer just friends with the people in your class like you were growing up, so it takes time and it takes a lot of effort. But in the end it's worth it.