a message to pnms

There are a lot of things PNMs don't know about recruitment! So here are my tips.

1) Don't pick a house because your bff/roommate is picking that house. You need to decide for yourself because this is your experience. Just because you're a legacy and feel pressured doesn't mean you need to pick that house if it doesn't feel right. Do what feels natural.

2) DO NOT BELIEVE ANYONE WHO PROMISES A BID. Individual members have no power to do this. Even if it's your best friend, there is still a process that determines if you get invited back. Anyone who says "see you tomorrow" or "see you bid day" are bid promising and A. can get in trouble for doing so and B. are unable to fulfill that promise.

3) Do not tell anyone what chapters you like/dislike. Be very private about your preferences, because this gossip has a way of getting out to houses.

4) Don't say one negative thing during recruitment. It's raining? It's hot? You're tired? Everyone has gone through recruitment and knows it sucks, but you come off poorly if you complain about it.

5) You will get cut from houses, so just get ready. It happens to (almost) everyone, and it can hurt your feelings. With so many girls going through getting cut isn't personal, it's just a numbers game. Go back to the other chapters you got and really give them a chance. You never know what you could like.

6) Don't talk about partying or boys. Just don't do it.

7) Be yourself. If you hate football don't say you're excited for game day. If you're nervous (everyone is) you don't need to act like you have it all together. If you're not sure of your major admit it. Actives can tell when a PNM is authentic, and being real is so much better than being fake.

8) You might cry. It happens to a lot of PNMs, especially on sisterhood/pref night. If you do cry, it's okay. If you don't, that's okay, too.


Be you, get hyped, and prep for a long week. It's so worth it at the end, and every chapter is great. Good luck!